You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
No, but i did wake up in the middle of the night with a one night stand and put her hand on my d!ck and she gave me an HJ. She didn't say anything or really move around.....honestly i think she was still asleep. weirdthatfeel said:By use I mean, she's half awake, you slip her shorts/sweat pants/underwear off and just do it from the side for a couple of minutes nut and that's it?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Yes I can totally relate to this also, my gf likes the idea of being ****ed in her sleep or being like half asleep or something, but half the time she's awake anyway and just "faking sleep" and lies there like a starfish to be manipulated, and that's just lame and annoying and kills the mood, no matter how horny I am.CrimsonPanther said:i did that a couple of times with some girls. all of them did it, except one but she was weird anyway. they usually do it, even if they aren't in the mood. if they care for you, they do it. only thing for me, if i see they are not getting off off it too, i get bored and it destroys the mood.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
YeahPairsPlusRoyalFlush said:They use me for that