Yes.
Im doing better now.
With a lot of self evaluation and examination. And analyzing the circumstances, I felt a little better able to see what happened. And at the same time doinng a lot of chakra healing work, martial art training, sharing my experience with close trustworthy friends, bodybuilding, journaling, reading inspiring literature, music,Reiki /energy healing,affirmations,EFT, mantras, and going out into nature. And basically , looking deep into myself and looking at what are my flaws, and working on turning them into strengths. BUt this is all an unending process. These things should be done regularly, so there isnt as much as a massive impact in these types of situations. Taking care of oneself during the relationship is extremely important. And working on one Self is the way you can bring more to your partner,
Communication is criritcal. If one can gain information on what what one did wrong, it can help too. But only if one desires to improve. And to seek to release ego and the need to protect an ego self image.
And to seek to understand your partner better, their past, their choices,their behaviors, their preferences, and their intentions. What are their hurts? What are yours?
What do you think you can do better next time?
What do you need to change about yourself?
Are you taking care of yourself?
Physically
Mentally
Emotionally
Spirirually
Are you nurturing yourself?
Crying is a response to sadness. Its natural.Grieving is natural.
Dont seek to hide it, and dont seek to minimize it.
Your hurt is your own, and your process is your own.
A lot of people do not have the empathy and sympathy to truly feel and recognize your pain, and more, your level of pain, grief, and sadness.
So they may not place the same value and what you feel you went through and what you may have lost.
But they are not you.
And you must understand that some people will not validate your feelings, nor feel your pain. They may seek to minimize it and discount it, and invalidate it. But they cant.
Thats ok.
Go through your process at your own pace, your own Timing.
You cant hurry up and finish processing, grieving, and fixing your weak points on someone else's forced upon schedule.
Everyone has their own timing for growth. And we have to respect that.
We have to respect our own. And we have to respect that other people may not understand us, nor may want to.
But continue to work to a better YOU, and a better more balanced, whole, and mature perspective on relationships, and understand what your triggers are, what are your imperfections, what are your fears....
And shine a light on them and face them, face yourself, and move through it all with courage.
Good luck.
