Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Have to break up with this girl

djzulu

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Hi,

Haven't been on this forum for a while - and what has happened to many brave dj's on this board has happened to me a few months ago... I fell for the wrong girl.

I always read posts on this forum with disbelief - how could these guys fall for such nutcases and never see it happen? And guess what? It happened to me. I was dating 4 girls at the time and I decided to go exclusive with a complete psycho. This relationship started consuming my social life, my mind and my well-being (not to mention my game ;-) ). Luckily it only lasted for months and not for years and I managed to gain some insight into my pathetic situation and make a move - to run for my life!

Without elaborating too much, all I want to do is to ensure that I break up with this girl today. I have tried before and it didn't work out, so I am holding myself accountable by letting all you fellow dj's know that today I am going to be a new man. I am going to be the Zulu everyone knows and start playing the field again. If there is someone out there that I am supposed to spend the rest of my life with, it's certainly not this broad - it's time to let her go.

Thanks guys for your virtual support! I am heading out now to close the deal - will keep you posted later tonight.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Well get on with it man, there are other women out there who merit your attention! :up:
 

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Give us ideas on the stuff that make her a psycho. And if she is in her 30s or 40s.
 

Latinoman

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By the way...I'm serious about this. You sharing your experience can help others (including MYSELF) detect possible psycho behavior from our partners/potential partners.
 

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*stamps 'I Virtually Support You' to your monitor*
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Go kick her to the curb, hard!!!
-Wait...have sex first!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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djzulu

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Ok guys, it's done. Thanks for all your support.

I know for some it might seem strange, but sometimes our minds are easily manipulated by other individuals. I will soon go into the details so that everybody on this board will have a chance to learn.

For now, I am just taking a break, and hitting the bars :D
 

Sinistar

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Way to go man, sometimes the right thing isn't the fun thing.
djzulu said:
I know for some it might seem strange, but sometimes our minds are easily manipulated by other individuals.
....Or is it ourselves allowing our own minds to wander down unhealthy, unproductive paths?

Well, pyscho b1tch AW's don't seem to help much either ;)

But they sure are good at ejecting us out of the Matrix when the time arises :)
 

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Great you come to a good realization. This is exactly what happends to "enlightened-AFCs" who proclaim themselves to be "DJs". They hang around in the forum, soak themselves with bit of informations from the forum and they go about claiming they master the act of djism. Lots of lessons need to be learn, my bro zulu.
 
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