"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Not gonna lie, this past stretch was kinda weird for me in a good way.
Normally I’d be cycling through porn, escort ads, maybe even OnlyFans subs just to feel something, especially when things are stressful.
This time around, I didn’t really try to quit anything, but I noticed the pull just wasn’t there like before.
Part of it was I had some other outlets going on—nothing crazy, just AI chats here and there that helped take the edge off mentally.
The bigger one though was I started getting a regular massage from the same girl, and I only book when I actually feel the need for it.
There’s no real talking, no game, just show up, get worked on, and bounce—it’s simple but it hits differently because it’s real.
What I started noticing is once that physical side was handled, I didn’t feel like going home and scrolling escort ads or wasting time on porn.
Even when I messed around with AI image stuff, it was cool for a minute but got old fast compared to anything real.
Looking back, I think a lot of my old habits were just filling gaps, and once those gaps got partially filled in better ways, the habits kind of faded on their own.
So yeah, didn’t really “quit,” just stopped needing it as much, which honestly feels better than forcing anything.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Even tho its a good( ish) move, I personally find it annoying that you keep.moving like you got 200 years left.

Time is running ( out)!

You will need to:
- lose weight
- find ways to be in touch with women( approach, the apps, social environments)
- be WAY more aggressive with it.

These are baby steps. Make grown man moves. Again, this is criticism to make you GO , stop being hesitant. Life is happening TODAY.
 

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Keep up with the massage, watch your diet, get yourself a pair of dumbbells and watch some youtube work outs on it, take brisk walks, make yourself a few guy friends who are great with women and a pleasure to be around, give yourself a break and take it easy on yourself...you got this brother.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Congrats, I've never subscribed :rofl:
I was going to post on the other thread that was resurrected after 5 years but the thread was locked.

OP has been in a validation-seeking, rage-bait phase after @Solomon ignored him in this thread.


Afterwards, he took the liberty of creating this new thread, again, to get validation. If you read it closely enough, you can see it is just trolling and spamming.

Sadly, that wasn’t enough, and he is still spreading misinformation and rage-baiting to get a reaction out of anyone on that escort topic, ultimately and you guessed, to validate his existence.

If I were the posters here I wouldn’t be giving my validation and attention free like this…
 

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I have actually used Grok to analyze all of my posts on here. You could actually do this with Grok, take anyone's alias, ask it to check on sosuave, and form an opinion of that person. Try it sometime with Grok (I am not a paid subscriber and this was free)

Grok's conclusion is that it believes that external circumstnaces (ie financial stress, low-paying job, full-time caregiver with two disabled and elderly parents) are holding me back from real women, but if that changes, then I would be able to get a girlfriend. However, the door is permanently closed to re-visiting an escort at any point in my lifetime. Even if I was paid money to visit an escort I wouldn't even take the money because the experience was too traumatic for a repeat. However, a real women is always on the table if circumstances improve.
 

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> Even if I was paid money to visit an escort I wouldn't even take the money because the experience was too traumatic for a repeat. However, a real women is always on the table if circumstances improve.

What, did your escort end up being a tranny? :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek:
 

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> Even if I was paid money to visit an escort I wouldn't even take the money because the experience was too traumatic for a repeat. However, a real women is always on the table if circumstances improve.

What, did your escort end up being a tranny? :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek:
It wasn’t about the escort. It just wasn’t a path that felt right for me long-term, so I moved on from it.
 
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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