Igetit!
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Yes. And this can happen QUICK. I personally think if you come across a girl you like,you need to make your interest known within the first few minutes of meeting her. This is especially true if she's someone you're going to be seeing often. That way,from the beginning.....you get the idea off in her head of you two possibly being sexual.I hear what you and many others are saying that I have to strike when the iron is hot before she loses interest (unless she already has).
You won't have to worry about getting the old,"You're like a brother to me/I don't see you "that way" " lines from her because you presented yourself to her "THAT WAY" from the very first moments of meeting her.
She has NO CHOICE but to see you as sexual (or potentially sexual),because that's how you presented yourself to her.......EVEN IF she rejects you. You won't shock her or make her feel uncomfortable by asking her out because you positioned yourself as a sexual option from the getgo.
You've known this chick going on THREE WEEKS......WITHOUT being upfront about your intentions. If you suddenly ask her out now,she may be like,"Where did that come from?" She's known the laughy "you",the guy she talks with "you",the flatmate "you".........not the SEXUAL "you". And it's because you've kept that side of yourself hidden for whatever reason.
So if you do bring him out,and she's suddenly ataken back,DON'T BLAME HER. If you don't have the confidence to go for what you want,that's not HER fault.
Sir,look.......I realize you don't have a high post count,but you've been a member here for 5 years. You've been here TOO LONG to fall for this HORSESH1T.You have to understand though that before All this she had told me she “doesn’t want to get attached”.
What's the NUMBER ONE thing this place has ALWAYS PREACHED about women?
"GO BY WHAT THEY DO.......not by what THEY SAY". Attraction and chemistry BREAKS RULES.
If this chick really liked you,if she really felt chemistry and attraction for you,do you REALLY THINK she'd let you being a "flatmate" stop you two from getting together?
Yep. Just what I said in my previous post.....you spend too much time "wondering/IMAGINING/telling yourself things.At that point I imagine she was just letting me down slowly.
The IOIs seemed legit. Problem is IOIs are like baseball pitches. They don't just sit there. You have to take advantage of them....otherwise,they just pass by.Then there were the IOIs, so I thought maybe I was game...
Now this......I understand what you mean. I can understand why you'd be hesitant.....Now the female flatmate has told me she’s talked about me and how “She doesn’t want to get with a flatmate”, again suggests she doesn’t want anything to happen and/or isn’t interested.
BUT.....
If this were really,truly the case....then WHY did she bother giving you all the IOIs to begin with? What was the point of those? You think she was being an AW? I don't.
Tell me something........WHEN did you get the news that this girl didn't want to get with a flatmate? Was it in the beginning while she was giving you all those IOIs? Or sometime thereafter?
That's fair. Now.....I have a question....When I say a move of sorts, the reason why the female flatmate told me the above is because I really wanted to make a move and she held me back to tell me what the girl in question had told her.
The female flatmate....the one who told you that the girl you like didn't want to get with a flatmate......did she know that you liked the other girl? What happened.....did you tell the flatmate you were going to go ask the other girl out,then she stopped you and told you what the girl you liked said?
If so,I'd have to agree with you not making a move..... But that STILL doesn't excuse you from not going for it while all those IOIs were there.