Have you ever travelled???Espi said:Andre:
America is as good as it gets, compared to the vast majority of the world.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Have you ever travelled???Espi said:Andre:
America is as good as it gets, compared to the vast majority of the world.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Well like I said before, this is an internet discussion forum, so I just don't give a $hit!!!!Cure said:56andre, The VERY valid point you are trying to make, is undermined significantly by your attitude and spelling/grammar.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You pretty much defined my OP, I said it’s ok if you have complete conviction like oxygen or water, same goes for food, should have put food & water!!! Fvck it!Espi said:--A girl I know who immigrated from Russia told me that most of the grocery stores there stock VERY limited food supplies...you are lucky to choose what you can eat. In Russia, you eat what's available. Therefore, I've never once complained about having to shop at an American chain grocery store...I'm very happy and consider it a luxury to live in the USA, where I have NEVER worried about food being scarce.
Have you ever considered that Australia is the driest continent in the world??? Why have a dryer?--My ex-GF's sister lived in Australia...she told me that very few households there own dryers...
Well education should be a right, not a privilege, its ridicules the amounts of money you need if you want a degree in college.and very few can CHOOSE to attend college...
SpiritualEspi said:And define "spiritual" please? I've yet to have anyone define this word sufficiently.
You posted earlier that you like to keep things "black and white." You're getting very gray here...i.e. "spiritual apex."
J. Darko said:Tell me, how can you get out of the routine going to work every day? How else could you get the money to buy food? I don't work yet, but yes, it does sound like a nightmare to have a 9 to 5 job, but what is the alternative? Being a homeless beggar?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
56andre said:Have you ever travelled[sic]???
Espi said:Respectfully: why don't you try defining the word on your own terms rather than someone else's?
Da Realist said:I mean, you have basically kicked the table over, but what's the follow up? Are you ready to give everything away you have to the homeless on the streets? Are you going to stop going out to eat since it's only because of your priveledged position in the world that you have the oppurtunity to do so when you want? All I say is that its really easy to show contempt for things, but it's a different matter to do anything about it.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Worse than having a gun to my head, I have to hear every single company that advertises on television have their own rendition of some Christmas carol or song that I used to like when I was a kid. Makes me want to slam a couple of one ounce slugs into my 46 inch flatscreen.Veridin said:Blah blah, the EVIL capitalists hypnotize you and force you to buy things. They hold a gun to your head.
Be an independent affiliate, be a good salesman, make your own hours by being good at something that is a niche and specializing in it. Do so good at your 9-5 for 2 years that you get a telecommuting proposal approved, where you can now do your job from home for 2 weeks out of the month. Have more time and less commute, become even more productive and specialized in the niche because you are able to work when you want to during the day, or until 2 in the morning if you like.J. Darko said:I don't work yet, but yes, it does sound like a nightmare to have a 9 to 5 job, but what is the alternative? Being a homeless beggar?
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.