Have you ever travelled???Espi said:Andre:
America is as good as it gets, compared to the vast majority of the world.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Have you ever travelled???Espi said:Andre:
America is as good as it gets, compared to the vast majority of the world.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Well like I said before, this is an internet discussion forum, so I just don't give a $hit!!!!Cure said:56andre, The VERY valid point you are trying to make, is undermined significantly by your attitude and spelling/grammar.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You pretty much defined my OP, I said it’s ok if you have complete conviction like oxygen or water, same goes for food, should have put food & water!!! Fvck it!Espi said:--A girl I know who immigrated from Russia told me that most of the grocery stores there stock VERY limited food supplies...you are lucky to choose what you can eat. In Russia, you eat what's available. Therefore, I've never once complained about having to shop at an American chain grocery store...I'm very happy and consider it a luxury to live in the USA, where I have NEVER worried about food being scarce.
Have you ever considered that Australia is the driest continent in the world??? Why have a dryer?--My ex-GF's sister lived in Australia...she told me that very few households there own dryers...
Well education should be a right, not a privilege, its ridicules the amounts of money you need if you want a degree in college.and very few can CHOOSE to attend college...
SpiritualEspi said:And define "spiritual" please? I've yet to have anyone define this word sufficiently.
You posted earlier that you like to keep things "black and white." You're getting very gray here...i.e. "spiritual apex."
J. Darko said:Tell me, how can you get out of the routine going to work every day? How else could you get the money to buy food? I don't work yet, but yes, it does sound like a nightmare to have a 9 to 5 job, but what is the alternative? Being a homeless beggar?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
56andre said:Have you ever travelled[sic]???
Espi said:Respectfully: why don't you try defining the word on your own terms rather than someone else's?
Da Realist said:I mean, you have basically kicked the table over, but what's the follow up? Are you ready to give everything away you have to the homeless on the streets? Are you going to stop going out to eat since it's only because of your priveledged position in the world that you have the oppurtunity to do so when you want? All I say is that its really easy to show contempt for things, but it's a different matter to do anything about it.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Worse than having a gun to my head, I have to hear every single company that advertises on television have their own rendition of some Christmas carol or song that I used to like when I was a kid. Makes me want to slam a couple of one ounce slugs into my 46 inch flatscreen.Veridin said:Blah blah, the EVIL capitalists hypnotize you and force you to buy things. They hold a gun to your head.
Be an independent affiliate, be a good salesman, make your own hours by being good at something that is a niche and specializing in it. Do so good at your 9-5 for 2 years that you get a telecommuting proposal approved, where you can now do your job from home for 2 weeks out of the month. Have more time and less commute, become even more productive and specialized in the niche because you are able to work when you want to during the day, or until 2 in the morning if you like.J. Darko said:I don't work yet, but yes, it does sound like a nightmare to have a 9 to 5 job, but what is the alternative? Being a homeless beggar?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.