i just hate that i caved in and broke no contact. one week of no contact i handled well and now after watching her tagged in a mutual friend's photo on fb all the hell broke lose. she completed her final exams today so texted her to say hope it went well. when i dint get a reply i called her up. she dint answer. an hour later she called back saying she's out with friends and phone was on silent so she dint receive. i played it cool told her that i hope it went well enjoy your day. still i hate myself for acting this way. now after hearing her voice its more difficult to forget everything and stop the memories from flooding my mind and its annoying to the core
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
hating for breaking nc
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
BadNews
Senior Don Juan
Is this a breakup? If it is, you're going to hate yourself even more if you continue down this path. You need to focus on other things in your life...and try to keep yourself occupied (especially for the first few weeks) so you're not sitting around thinking about calling her, or what shes doing. It gets easier as time goes on. But every time you slip up like this...its like you have to start all over again.
kenpiffyjr
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Dont beat yourself up. So she thinks you're a simp for a day or two. Cool. Start NC again and soon she'll stop thinking that and you'll be cool.
it is a breakup but still feelings are there on both sides but had to end it as im going out of country for a long time..however the breakup happened a 2-3 weeks back but she continued being in touch..the no contact phase started a week back.BadNews said:
i handled the first few days well..hanging out with friends..right now a few min back she texted me in reply to the text that i sent her and wrote tht she was not alone in the car so couldnt talk more..i havent replied to that..nor am i planning to..
thanks for the response
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
SamTheHobit
Master Don Juan
It happens.