i just hate that i caved in and broke no contact. one week of no contact i handled well and now after watching her tagged in a mutual friend's photo on fb all the hell broke lose. she completed her final exams today so texted her to say hope it went well. when i dint get a reply i called her up. she dint answer. an hour later she called back saying she's out with friends and phone was on silent so she dint receive. i played it cool told her that i hope it went well enjoy your day. still i hate myself for acting this way. now after hearing her voice its more difficult to forget everything and stop the memories from flooding my mind and its annoying to the core
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
hating for breaking nc
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
BadNews
Senior Don Juan
Is this a breakup? If it is, you're going to hate yourself even more if you continue down this path. You need to focus on other things in your life...and try to keep yourself occupied (especially for the first few weeks) so you're not sitting around thinking about calling her, or what shes doing. It gets easier as time goes on. But every time you slip up like this...its like you have to start all over again.
kenpiffyjr
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Dont beat yourself up. So she thinks you're a simp for a day or two. Cool. Start NC again and soon she'll stop thinking that and you'll be cool.
it is a breakup but still feelings are there on both sides but had to end it as im going out of country for a long time..however the breakup happened a 2-3 weeks back but she continued being in touch..the no contact phase started a week back.BadNews said:
i handled the first few days well..hanging out with friends..right now a few min back she texted me in reply to the text that i sent her and wrote tht she was not alone in the car so couldnt talk more..i havent replied to that..nor am i planning to..
thanks for the response
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
SamTheHobit
Master Don Juan
It happens.