"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Has anyone tried dating in Silicon Valley?

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I have a job opportunity in Silicon Valley, which I hear is the single worst dating area in the world - where nerdy millionaires have to hold special events to find dates. I'm in Florida now in a retirement area so it's not much better here (nothing but waitstaff basically - no career women), though it's 52% women here versus 48% women there.

Has anyone tried dating in the San Jose area? Is it really that bad? I might have another opportunity in Austin, TX which I hear is a great dating scene.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Go for it. I would kill to live in Silicon Valley. There are attractive chicks no matter where you travel.
 
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I heard that for women there "The odds are good, but the goods are odd". So it might not be that bad if you're not a nerd. In my one night in San Mateo 4 years ago, an attractive woman approached me at my dinner table so I always assumed it was a good dating area. But I'm leaning toward Austin where there is no state tax, lower cost of living and no gun restrictions.

Sunnyvale (where the job is) was voted #1 city in America to date a nerd:

http://yahoo.match.com/y/article.aspx?articleid=12410
 
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No state tax? That's pretty sweet. Texas has always sounded interesting to me. Of course, I live in Kentucky so the cost of living is null, and gun laws haven't quite made it to our state as of yet.

You should go with the more comfortable of the two as far as living conditions go.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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