"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Has anyone tried dating in Silicon Valley?

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I have a job opportunity in Silicon Valley, which I hear is the single worst dating area in the world - where nerdy millionaires have to hold special events to find dates. I'm in Florida now in a retirement area so it's not much better here (nothing but waitstaff basically - no career women), though it's 52% women here versus 48% women there.

Has anyone tried dating in the San Jose area? Is it really that bad? I might have another opportunity in Austin, TX which I hear is a great dating scene.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Go for it. I would kill to live in Silicon Valley. There are attractive chicks no matter where you travel.
 

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I heard that for women there "The odds are good, but the goods are odd". So it might not be that bad if you're not a nerd. In my one night in San Mateo 4 years ago, an attractive woman approached me at my dinner table so I always assumed it was a good dating area. But I'm leaning toward Austin where there is no state tax, lower cost of living and no gun restrictions.

Sunnyvale (where the job is) was voted #1 city in America to date a nerd:

http://yahoo.match.com/y/article.aspx?articleid=12410
 
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No state tax? That's pretty sweet. Texas has always sounded interesting to me. Of course, I live in Kentucky so the cost of living is null, and gun laws haven't quite made it to our state as of yet.

You should go with the more comfortable of the two as far as living conditions go.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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