That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I tried to look you up on facebook and myspace. No luck.DavenJuan said:
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I am all across the board. I am attracted to men, not colors.ThunderMaverick said:
I like full lips. I like nice toned bodies, though I have dated men a little flabby, and very skinny. I do like tall guys I admit, though I have dated from 5'8 to 6'5 (crazy I know since I am like 5'0!), I think Joaquin Phoenix is the SH!T, and have thought so way before he was an Oscar contender, I also think Hadyen Christianson (?), the hot doc from LOST, Peter from Heroes, Suresh from Heroes, and Vince from Entourage are all 10's in my book. I used to have a major crush on Blair Underwood, but I am over it now. OH, I have been in love with Keifer Sutherland since Lost Boys in 85, when I was like... 5. Haha.ThunderMaverick said:
Well, I DID ask for it, didn't I?iqqi said:
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
iqqi said:I am all across the board. I am attracted to men, not colors.
However, DJ looks permanently high, lol. Not my type, but he is kind of cute.
Since when Joaquin Phoenix' body (and for that matter's "Vince" from Entourage) is considered to be "tone"? Far from it.iqqi said:I like full lips. I like nice toned bodies, though I have dated men a little flabby, and very skinny. I do like tall guys I admit, though I have dated from 5'8 to 6'5 (crazy I know since I am like 5'0!), I think Joaquin Phoenix is the SH!T, and have thought so way before he was an Oscar contender, I also think Hadyen Christianson (?), the hot doc from LOST, Peter from Heroes, Suresh from Heroes, and Vince from Entourage are all 10's in my book. I used to have a major crush on Blair Underwood, but I am over it now. OH, I have been in love with Keifer Sutherland since Lost Boys in 85, when I was like... 5. Haha.
The one thing that can almost always win me over is sharp wit. Works like a charm. NOT goofy wit! Mysterious, sharp wit...
Two of the guys I was craziest about in the past year were NOT lookers, lol. But the wit... amazing.
I AM across the board. My friends can't figure it out.
EDIT: What an AW post, lol. ^^^
Actually, I was just giving examples of what I like. I could list guys off the street just as easily, but that wouldn't paint any pictures, now would it. One would have to name "well knowns" as those are common reference points. I also think Anderson Cooper is hot, but I recently found out he was gay.Latinoman said:
Broke my heart!!! She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.