That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I tried to look you up on facebook and myspace. No luck.DavenJuan said:
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I am all across the board. I am attracted to men, not colors.ThunderMaverick said:
I like full lips. I like nice toned bodies, though I have dated men a little flabby, and very skinny. I do like tall guys I admit, though I have dated from 5'8 to 6'5 (crazy I know since I am like 5'0!), I think Joaquin Phoenix is the SH!T, and have thought so way before he was an Oscar contender, I also think Hadyen Christianson (?), the hot doc from LOST, Peter from Heroes, Suresh from Heroes, and Vince from Entourage are all 10's in my book. I used to have a major crush on Blair Underwood, but I am over it now. OH, I have been in love with Keifer Sutherland since Lost Boys in 85, when I was like... 5. Haha.ThunderMaverick said:
Well, I DID ask for it, didn't I?iqqi said:
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
iqqi said:I am all across the board. I am attracted to men, not colors.
However, DJ looks permanently high, lol. Not my type, but he is kind of cute.
Since when Joaquin Phoenix' body (and for that matter's "Vince" from Entourage) is considered to be "tone"? Far from it.iqqi said:I like full lips. I like nice toned bodies, though I have dated men a little flabby, and very skinny. I do like tall guys I admit, though I have dated from 5'8 to 6'5 (crazy I know since I am like 5'0!), I think Joaquin Phoenix is the SH!T, and have thought so way before he was an Oscar contender, I also think Hadyen Christianson (?), the hot doc from LOST, Peter from Heroes, Suresh from Heroes, and Vince from Entourage are all 10's in my book. I used to have a major crush on Blair Underwood, but I am over it now. OH, I have been in love with Keifer Sutherland since Lost Boys in 85, when I was like... 5. Haha.
The one thing that can almost always win me over is sharp wit. Works like a charm. NOT goofy wit! Mysterious, sharp wit...
Two of the guys I was craziest about in the past year were NOT lookers, lol. But the wit... amazing.
I AM across the board. My friends can't figure it out.
EDIT: What an AW post, lol. ^^^
Actually, I was just giving examples of what I like. I could list guys off the street just as easily, but that wouldn't paint any pictures, now would it. One would have to name "well knowns" as those are common reference points. I also think Anderson Cooper is hot, but I recently found out he was gay.Latinoman said:
Broke my heart!!! You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.