say a woman flakes on you out of the blue. like youve been talking for awhile and everything seemed to be going great, then you wakeup oneday to find out you're on her ignore list all of a sudden for reasons unknown. you try to find out but to no avail, she ignores you, won't tell you. so you next and move on. then you bump into her oneday and it comes up and she gives you a reason you know isnt true, like "you got mad at me" or some other reason that just baffles you. thinking back to all the conversations you had with her you dont remember ever getting into an argument with her, its like she dreamed this whole reason up in her head, yet theres nothing you can do to change it.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
has a woman ever done this to you?
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Kailex
Master Don Juan
I would have played along with it, but more along the lines of...
"I was just mad at myself, I couldn't believe that I had lowered my standards."
So did she flake on you before an actual date. Or what happened?
And btw, of course she made up an excuse... did you think she was going to acknowledge the situation?
Women will never own up to the crap they have done, and in what was a very sh!tty move, she actually pinned it on YOU.
Actually, my response might have changed to:
"Thank you, I knew there was a reason why we should never go out, and you just gave me that reason."
EDIT: JLay is right. My responses are total crap, to be honest.
But the basics are still the same on why she MADE Up the reason for YOU not talking to HER.
"I was just mad at myself, I couldn't believe that I had lowered my standards."
So did she flake on you before an actual date. Or what happened?
And btw, of course she made up an excuse... did you think she was going to acknowledge the situation?
Women will never own up to the crap they have done, and in what was a very sh!tty move, she actually pinned it on YOU.
Actually, my response might have changed to:
"Thank you, I knew there was a reason why we should never go out, and you just gave me that reason."
EDIT: JLay is right. My responses are total crap, to be honest.
But the basics are still the same on why she MADE Up the reason for YOU not talking to HER.
You can try speaking your position but it wouldn't get you very far; after all, if she actually cared what you thought she would have asked instead of just straight up blocking you. The simple answer is that for whatever reason (and it doesn't matter, and shouldn't matter to you) she doesn't want to talk to you or know you anymore, so just move on.
The reasoning behind her doing this could be anything; hell, she might even have a legit reason to do it. But regardless, I just don't see the point of projecting negativity in your life if you don't have to. Negativity just breeds more negativity, which is ultimately damaging to your consciousness and your self. Just be nice and respectful to her if you ever run into her and leave it at that.
Dude I wouldn't even go that route. Yeah, it's a sh!tty move, but saying something like that to her not only shows your insecurity about it (that she actually got to you) but also is entirely unnecessary. I mean what's the point of saying something like that? Why project negativity needlessly?Kailex said:
The reasoning behind her doing this could be anything; hell, she might even have a legit reason to do it. But regardless, I just don't see the point of projecting negativity in your life if you don't have to. Negativity just breeds more negativity, which is ultimately damaging to your consciousness and your self. Just be nice and respectful to her if you ever run into her and leave it at that.
In2theGame
Master Don Juan
lol this happened to me before. I ended up hanging out with another girl that night. Later on she send me a message through email saying sorry blah blah blah. I just said dont worry about it, i hung out with someone else. They come out of no where with this sh*t sometimes but whatever, their loss.Robert28 said:
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
In2theGame
Master Don Juan
Your a Jerk JLay lol nah j/k ive done it too but felt bad. I stood this girl up one time, didnt really mean to as i lost track of time but she ended up callin me crying. then proceeded to say she might love me? eh... that was the end of that.JLay87 said:
i never went out with this girl. she was a single/recently divorced mom i met at a friends party, we exchanged numbers and talked for a couple of days then she was never to be heard from again all of a sudden. i have a good memory and i think i would remember getting mad at someone, or at least the reason i got mad at them to begin with. she didnt say what i got mad about, she just said i got mad at her and she thought i seemed "aggressive" and it "kinda scared her".lol I DON'T REMEMBER ANY OF THIS! im not the agressive type for one, and for two no other girl has ever mentioned this to me at all. i think this chick has me confused with someone else and shes probably thinking the guy that did treat her this way is just oh so sweet, and im apparently the jerk and i never did anything!haha