say a woman flakes on you out of the blue. like youve been talking for awhile and everything seemed to be going great, then you wakeup oneday to find out you're on her ignore list all of a sudden for reasons unknown. you try to find out but to no avail, she ignores you, won't tell you. so you next and move on. then you bump into her oneday and it comes up and she gives you a reason you know isnt true, like "you got mad at me" or some other reason that just baffles you. thinking back to all the conversations you had with her you dont remember ever getting into an argument with her, its like she dreamed this whole reason up in her head, yet theres nothing you can do to change it.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
has a woman ever done this to you?
- Thread starter Robert28
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Kailex
Master Don Juan
I would have played along with it, but more along the lines of...
"I was just mad at myself, I couldn't believe that I had lowered my standards."
So did she flake on you before an actual date. Or what happened?
And btw, of course she made up an excuse... did you think she was going to acknowledge the situation?
Women will never own up to the crap they have done, and in what was a very sh!tty move, she actually pinned it on YOU.
Actually, my response might have changed to:
"Thank you, I knew there was a reason why we should never go out, and you just gave me that reason."
EDIT: JLay is right. My responses are total crap, to be honest.
But the basics are still the same on why she MADE Up the reason for YOU not talking to HER.
"I was just mad at myself, I couldn't believe that I had lowered my standards."
So did she flake on you before an actual date. Or what happened?
And btw, of course she made up an excuse... did you think she was going to acknowledge the situation?
Women will never own up to the crap they have done, and in what was a very sh!tty move, she actually pinned it on YOU.
Actually, my response might have changed to:
"Thank you, I knew there was a reason why we should never go out, and you just gave me that reason."
EDIT: JLay is right. My responses are total crap, to be honest.
But the basics are still the same on why she MADE Up the reason for YOU not talking to HER.
You can try speaking your position but it wouldn't get you very far; after all, if she actually cared what you thought she would have asked instead of just straight up blocking you. The simple answer is that for whatever reason (and it doesn't matter, and shouldn't matter to you) she doesn't want to talk to you or know you anymore, so just move on.
The reasoning behind her doing this could be anything; hell, she might even have a legit reason to do it. But regardless, I just don't see the point of projecting negativity in your life if you don't have to. Negativity just breeds more negativity, which is ultimately damaging to your consciousness and your self. Just be nice and respectful to her if you ever run into her and leave it at that.
Dude I wouldn't even go that route. Yeah, it's a sh!tty move, but saying something like that to her not only shows your insecurity about it (that she actually got to you) but also is entirely unnecessary. I mean what's the point of saying something like that? Why project negativity needlessly?Kailex said:
The reasoning behind her doing this could be anything; hell, she might even have a legit reason to do it. But regardless, I just don't see the point of projecting negativity in your life if you don't have to. Negativity just breeds more negativity, which is ultimately damaging to your consciousness and your self. Just be nice and respectful to her if you ever run into her and leave it at that.
In2theGame
Master Don Juan
lol this happened to me before. I ended up hanging out with another girl that night. Later on she send me a message through email saying sorry blah blah blah. I just said dont worry about it, i hung out with someone else. They come out of no where with this sh*t sometimes but whatever, their loss.Robert28 said:
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
In2theGame
Master Don Juan
Your a Jerk JLay lol nah j/k ive done it too but felt bad. I stood this girl up one time, didnt really mean to as i lost track of time but she ended up callin me crying. then proceeded to say she might love me? eh... that was the end of that.JLay87 said:
i never went out with this girl. she was a single/recently divorced mom i met at a friends party, we exchanged numbers and talked for a couple of days then she was never to be heard from again all of a sudden. i have a good memory and i think i would remember getting mad at someone, or at least the reason i got mad at them to begin with. she didnt say what i got mad about, she just said i got mad at her and she thought i seemed "aggressive" and it "kinda scared her".lol I DON'T REMEMBER ANY OF THIS! im not the agressive type for one, and for two no other girl has ever mentioned this to me at all. i think this chick has me confused with someone else and shes probably thinking the guy that did treat her this way is just oh so sweet, and im apparently the jerk and i never did anything!haha