"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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hardly any girls in my classes

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haha, never thought it could happen a second time in a row, but im stuck with hardly any girls in my classes (again), the only 2 HB 8's are in 2 of my classes, 1st and 4th. the other 2 "dateable" girls are 7.5 at the highest

the one in 1st i've already tried to game, she flaked 3 times. strike out. NEXT
the one in 4th got rushed by all these guys, (F#$&in animals) but she's my last option, so what can i do for an approach, there's guys all round her. im talking about the D!ckheads too.

what can i do about this? i know yall will probably say cold approach someone in the hall maybe lunchroom or something, but im not really an expert at meeting people in the hallways or any other place out of the blue
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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what do you do on weekends?

one might assume... nothing...
 

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well JJ understand that i work my *SS off to make money i really dont have time to go out and party all the time like some of you guys.
THE FEW times i get to go do something that doesn't involve cutting boards, and fixing electrical mistakes made by self certified read it on the internet electricians, i spend my time with the buds, go to small parties, maybe the movies once and a while, since there aint really much to do around here.
 

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well i'm not saying you should be out partying every night or anything like that.

i AM saying that in high school i lived on social network game. it's easy as hell.

i was a part of a little clique that included a lot of the good girls of my class. when we'd hang out, random friends of friends would pop up constantly. i dont know if it was coincidence or not ;) ha but this is where my game took root in hs. all i had to do was wait till one i thought was cute showed up at a gathering, get her number, text her a bit, go out with her, and hook up. you being at these situations where her friends invite her to sets you apart as someone who must be worth knowing, otherwise, why would her trusted friends keep you around? as you may or may not know, social proof is huge in high school. this is use of it at its finest.

if you don't have a solid group of friends to introduce you to their cute friends, there's little you can do but try these cold approaches (which i've never tried in high school, but in my head seem at least mildly creepy) . so you work a lot? so get some friends together from there. join some activities. it's high school for god's sake! i understand if you have financial obligations or something like that, but you have your whole life to "work your as5 off to make money."
 

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(JJ) said:
well i'm not saying you should be out partying every night or anything like that.

i AM saying that in high school i lived on social network game. it's easy as hell.

i was a part of a little clique that included a lot of the good girls of my class. when we'd hang out, random friends of friends would pop up constantly. i dont know if it was coincidence or not ;) ha but this is where my game took root in hs. all i had to do was wait till one i thought was cute showed up at a gathering, get her number, text her a bit, go out with her, and hook up. you being at these situations where her friends invite her to sets you apart as someone who must be worth knowing, otherwise, why would her trusted friends keep you around? as you may or may not know, social proof is huge in high school. this is use of it at its finest.

if you don't have a solid group of friends to introduce you to their cute friends, there's little you can do but try these cold approaches (which i've never tried in high school, but in my head seem at least mildly creepy) . so you work a lot? so get some friends together from there. join some activities. it's high school for god's sake! i understand if you have financial obligations or something like that, but you have your whole life to "work your as5 off to make money."

thanks JJ, that's some really useful advice you just gave me, ill take it to heart and put that to good use.
well im going to make time to befriend and chill with the not so good looking girls, and meet better girls through them.

personally i think your right about cold approaches being "mildly creepy" so ill stick to your plan.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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