She says she dosent wanna go to the mall because shes been there all week for christmas shopping and boxing day (the movie theaters are at the mall as well). and right now its winter so its not like i can just take her outside and it will be good, its too cold even for me. ive only been on a date with her once but weve been talking for a month and i figure to ask her to come to my place. but im thinking what if she says no because maybe shes not that comfortable? im still going to ask her but im wondering what would be a good thing to say if she says no?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Hard To Figure Out A Place To Take Her...
- Thread starter matygee
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
sparky0000
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dude, she hates you. if she liked you she would go ANYWHERE with you. a trip to the neighborhood dumpster would sound groovy.
Why not take her out skating. It's always a good date for winter time, and if she's bad then at some point she will be grabbing on to you or holding you hand. This is assuming you know how to skate though haha. If not, I don't know ask her out to lunch or something. I don't think its that hard to find a place.
At this point in the "relationship" don't compromise with her. Say this is where we are going and if she doesn't want to come, oh well. Tell her you are still going. She is testing you and you are falling into her trap. Be a man stand up and say we are going to have fun here, lets go and we'll have the best time of our lives at "insert your place here". Have fun.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Coffee, ice cream/dessert, or drinks make a simple mini-date. Then you can suggest getting a movie and taking it back to your place. Put the emphasis on a particular movie that you especially want to rent - not on getting her back to your place. Always have some pretense as to why she is in your house, other than sex. 'Watch a movie' has become a euphemism for 'go home and fvck.'
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Senior Don Juan
Me being the guy that I am, wouldn't "TAKE" her anywhere. Instead I'll invite her to join me (meet up with me) where ever I go (i.e. Pool Hall, Bar) and if she doesn't show I'm still going to have fun regardless.