She says she dosent wanna go to the mall because shes been there all week for christmas shopping and boxing day (the movie theaters are at the mall as well). and right now its winter so its not like i can just take her outside and it will be good, its too cold even for me. ive only been on a date with her once but weve been talking for a month and i figure to ask her to come to my place. but im thinking what if she says no because maybe shes not that comfortable? im still going to ask her but im wondering what would be a good thing to say if she says no?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Hard To Figure Out A Place To Take Her...
- Thread starter matygee
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
sparky0000
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dude, she hates you. if she liked you she would go ANYWHERE with you. a trip to the neighborhood dumpster would sound groovy.
Why not take her out skating. It's always a good date for winter time, and if she's bad then at some point she will be grabbing on to you or holding you hand. This is assuming you know how to skate though haha. If not, I don't know ask her out to lunch or something. I don't think its that hard to find a place.
At this point in the "relationship" don't compromise with her. Say this is where we are going and if she doesn't want to come, oh well. Tell her you are still going. She is testing you and you are falling into her trap. Be a man stand up and say we are going to have fun here, lets go and we'll have the best time of our lives at "insert your place here". Have fun.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Coffee, ice cream/dessert, or drinks make a simple mini-date. Then you can suggest getting a movie and taking it back to your place. Put the emphasis on a particular movie that you especially want to rent - not on getting her back to your place. Always have some pretense as to why she is in your house, other than sex. 'Watch a movie' has become a euphemism for 'go home and fvck.'
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Faded Image
Senior Don Juan
Me being the guy that I am, wouldn't "TAKE" her anywhere. Instead I'll invite her to join me (meet up with me) where ever I go (i.e. Pool Hall, Bar) and if she doesn't show I'm still going to have fun regardless.