"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Hard time finding a hobby

Tempest

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I'm having a tough time finding a SOLID hobby/interest.

Right now, I work full-time doing sales/marketing. It sucks, but it allows me to go clubbing 4 nights a week. I'm out in the field a solid 4 nights a week, and I'm also part-time taking a marketing class. I also exercise 5 days a week.

So, this is my life:
- PUA (clubbing, shopping, girls)
- Sales/Marketing Job
- Marketing Student
- Exercise 5 days a week
- Write in journal

So, that's it. Pretty boring. I don't feel like a complete person, and I think it's hurting my game. My problem is finding a GOOD hobby that I enjoy. I love doing PU, it's an essential part of my life. I'm obsessed with it... and read about it and I'm trying to improve all the time. But I need something more. I need an identity. One of my friend is a DJ, hockey player... another a soccer play... another an artist... another a film producer. I want to be a promoter, but that isn't until 2 years in the future.

I've tried musical instruments, soccer, basketball, martial arts, and some other sports. But I can't find anything that just *clicks* and that I really enjoy.

I did computers for 5 years of my life, but dropped it because it's lame.

Can you guys recommend anything? Nothing like "i listen to music" or garbage like that.

Thanks
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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October

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Exercising is a pretty good hobby, although I see you already have that written down.

Here's some stuff I can think of:

Shooting pool, golf, swimming, cars, poker, carpentry, stocks, electronics, surfing (if you live by water), or studying some interesting subject (psychology, physics, philosophy, or stuff like that. My friend studies dreams). You could try things outdoors like camping or hiking and that kind of stuff. There's a lot out there, but that's about all I got, hope it helps.

By the way, what musical instruments did you try out? I played piano and I violin and I didn't like them, but then I picked up the french horn and I like it a lot.
 

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Try extreme sports.. They'll give you thrills.
 

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i'm sort of in the same boat as you. i have no real hobby to spend some time on. just in the past couple days i've realized, the only way to find a hobby is to go out and try everything YOU look interested in. dont do something just because you think the girls will like it. so get out there and try something new..what do you have to lose?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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ShizamDaMan

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Pickup an instrument.
 

S0LID

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learn party tricks!
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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check_mate_kid_uk

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you are trying to play sports that are games where the object is to score points. You say you like ot excersize 5 days a week so it would make more sense to try a sport where the emphasis is on speed and endurance and basicly getting fitter such as cycling swimming or running.
 

ryan killa

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Perhaps try chess, or spades(card game). If you are in the US, there is a nationwide ranking system, and there are always clubs, etc. But maybe you don't want to meet geeks:). j/k
 

Gangster Of Love

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Originally posted by aftershock
Internet poker is a pretty good hobby.
So is being an online Trekie/Treker, on just a Trekie, period. But do you really want to stop getting laid?

As stated before, musical instrument, any, even just learning how to sing good.

Learn a prop, palmistry, tarot, dream interpretation, handwriting analysis (my favorite).
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Originally posted by Gangster Of Love
So is being an online Trekie/Treker, on just a Trekie, period. But do you really want to stop getting laid?

As stated before, musical instrument, any, even just learning how to sing good.
I agree.... I can play bass and drums. Actually in the process of starting a band with a few friends. Women do seem to like guys who can play a musical instrument.
 
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