"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Hard time finding a hobby

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I'm having a tough time finding a SOLID hobby/interest.

Right now, I work full-time doing sales/marketing. It sucks, but it allows me to go clubbing 4 nights a week. I'm out in the field a solid 4 nights a week, and I'm also part-time taking a marketing class. I also exercise 5 days a week.

So, this is my life:
- PUA (clubbing, shopping, girls)
- Sales/Marketing Job
- Marketing Student
- Exercise 5 days a week
- Write in journal

So, that's it. Pretty boring. I don't feel like a complete person, and I think it's hurting my game. My problem is finding a GOOD hobby that I enjoy. I love doing PU, it's an essential part of my life. I'm obsessed with it... and read about it and I'm trying to improve all the time. But I need something more. I need an identity. One of my friend is a DJ, hockey player... another a soccer play... another an artist... another a film producer. I want to be a promoter, but that isn't until 2 years in the future.

I've tried musical instruments, soccer, basketball, martial arts, and some other sports. But I can't find anything that just *clicks* and that I really enjoy.

I did computers for 5 years of my life, but dropped it because it's lame.

Can you guys recommend anything? Nothing like "i listen to music" or garbage like that.

Thanks
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Exercising is a pretty good hobby, although I see you already have that written down.

Here's some stuff I can think of:

Shooting pool, golf, swimming, cars, poker, carpentry, stocks, electronics, surfing (if you live by water), or studying some interesting subject (psychology, physics, philosophy, or stuff like that. My friend studies dreams). You could try things outdoors like camping or hiking and that kind of stuff. There's a lot out there, but that's about all I got, hope it helps.

By the way, what musical instruments did you try out? I played piano and I violin and I didn't like them, but then I picked up the french horn and I like it a lot.
 
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Try extreme sports.. They'll give you thrills.
 
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i'm sort of in the same boat as you. i have no real hobby to spend some time on. just in the past couple days i've realized, the only way to find a hobby is to go out and try everything YOU look interested in. dont do something just because you think the girls will like it. so get out there and try something new..what do you have to lose?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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ShizamDaMan

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Pickup an instrument.
 
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learn party tricks!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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you are trying to play sports that are games where the object is to score points. You say you like ot excersize 5 days a week so it would make more sense to try a sport where the emphasis is on speed and endurance and basicly getting fitter such as cycling swimming or running.
 
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Perhaps try chess, or spades(card game). If you are in the US, there is a nationwide ranking system, and there are always clubs, etc. But maybe you don't want to meet geeks:). j/k
 
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Originally posted by aftershock
Internet poker is a pretty good hobby.
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So is being an online Trekie/Treker, on just a Trekie, period. But do you really want to stop getting laid?

As stated before, musical instrument, any, even just learning how to sing good.

Learn a prop, palmistry, tarot, dream interpretation, handwriting analysis (my favorite).
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Originally posted by Gangster Of Love
So is being an online Trekie/Treker, on just a Trekie, period. But do you really want to stop getting laid?

As stated before, musical instrument, any, even just learning how to sing good.
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I agree.... I can play bass and drums. Actually in the process of starting a band with a few friends. Women do seem to like guys who can play a musical instrument.
 
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