"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Happy birthday wish to a girl you cared about but never got?

alpha_ash

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One of the girls I met, we actually became pretty good friends and she would play wingman for me at times. However after some fallout (stupid drama) I stopped hanging out with her and went NC Even when she would invite me out.

I haven't seen her in about 6-7 weeks now and I'm wondering whether to break NC to wish her happy birthday. If so then how should I phrase it? Just "happy birthday" or "hey beautiful happy birthday" or "happy birthday, hope its a good one."

We actually ended up become good friends for that short period of time, so I need to know how to proceed in this situation. Please assist. I'm thinking I shouldn't break NC, but I also have nothing against her inside so I don't know for sure. Guide me one way or another and please provide an explanation.

Thank you all!
<3 SS
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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foreverAFC

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lol.....
 

SamTheHobit

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Do whatever you want, you don't need approval from a bunch of Internet strangers.
 

alpha_ash

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I do need approval because I don't want to do something that will make me look or feel weak afterwards. Plus this is why we come here to get advice before taking questionable action. I'm questioning it and I'm sure the experts here can provide support for or against my actions.

We all know that in certain situations, guys don't think straight. This may be one of them for me.
 

nroug7

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alpha_ash said:
I do need approval because I don't want to do something that will make me look or feel weak afterwards. Plus this is why we come here to get advice before taking questionable action. I'm questioning it and I'm sure the experts here can provide support for or against my actions.

We all know that in certain situations, guys don't think straight. This may be one of them for me.
You are over thinking it. Do you feel like it will make you look or feel weak afterwards? Then don't do it. But if you can come out of it feeling awesome and even learn a thing or two, full steam ahead.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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SgtSplacker

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If you like this girl make passes at her, try to kiss her. MAKE HER NC YOU... if anything. You are just being an AFC not letting her know how you feel about her. If you are going to go for her, have expectations make sure she is making you happy.

As far as her bday goes you need to make a decision on whether you are going to go for this girl or not. If the answer is yes, then contact her and try to set something up. If the answer is no, then leave her alone you will just confuse her.

If the idea is just to wish her a happy bday and resume NC then don't contact her at all.

If you have no feelings for this girl then what are you doing here exactly? Leave her alone!
 

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I tried this recently and she didn't even thank me. Besides, Facebook ruined birthdays forever now that everyone gets a reminder and girls get 2000 birthday greetings yet pretend they are really that popular.
 

SamTheHobit

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bigneil said:
I tried this recently and she didn't even thank me. Besides, Facebook ruined birthdays forever now that everyone gets a reminder and girls get 2000 birthday greetings yet pretend they are really that popular.
Totally agreed.
 
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