Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Happy birthday wish to a girl you cared about but never got?

alpha_ash

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One of the girls I met, we actually became pretty good friends and she would play wingman for me at times. However after some fallout (stupid drama) I stopped hanging out with her and went NC Even when she would invite me out.

I haven't seen her in about 6-7 weeks now and I'm wondering whether to break NC to wish her happy birthday. If so then how should I phrase it? Just "happy birthday" or "hey beautiful happy birthday" or "happy birthday, hope its a good one."

We actually ended up become good friends for that short period of time, so I need to know how to proceed in this situation. Please assist. I'm thinking I shouldn't break NC, but I also have nothing against her inside so I don't know for sure. Guide me one way or another and please provide an explanation.

Thank you all!
<3 SS
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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foreverAFC

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lol.....
 

SamTheHobit

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Do whatever you want, you don't need approval from a bunch of Internet strangers.
 

alpha_ash

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I do need approval because I don't want to do something that will make me look or feel weak afterwards. Plus this is why we come here to get advice before taking questionable action. I'm questioning it and I'm sure the experts here can provide support for or against my actions.

We all know that in certain situations, guys don't think straight. This may be one of them for me.
 

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alpha_ash said:
I do need approval because I don't want to do something that will make me look or feel weak afterwards. Plus this is why we come here to get advice before taking questionable action. I'm questioning it and I'm sure the experts here can provide support for or against my actions.

We all know that in certain situations, guys don't think straight. This may be one of them for me.
You are over thinking it. Do you feel like it will make you look or feel weak afterwards? Then don't do it. But if you can come out of it feeling awesome and even learn a thing or two, full steam ahead.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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SgtSplacker

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If you like this girl make passes at her, try to kiss her. MAKE HER NC YOU... if anything. You are just being an AFC not letting her know how you feel about her. If you are going to go for her, have expectations make sure she is making you happy.

As far as her bday goes you need to make a decision on whether you are going to go for this girl or not. If the answer is yes, then contact her and try to set something up. If the answer is no, then leave her alone you will just confuse her.

If the idea is just to wish her a happy bday and resume NC then don't contact her at all.

If you have no feelings for this girl then what are you doing here exactly? Leave her alone!
 

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I tried this recently and she didn't even thank me. Besides, Facebook ruined birthdays forever now that everyone gets a reminder and girls get 2000 birthday greetings yet pretend they are really that popular.
 

SamTheHobit

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bigneil said:
I tried this recently and she didn't even thank me. Besides, Facebook ruined birthdays forever now that everyone gets a reminder and girls get 2000 birthday greetings yet pretend they are really that popular.
Totally agreed.
 
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