DumpaLumpagus
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Happiness is...
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Happiness is...
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
diplomatic_lies
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Happiness is whatever makes you happy.
Aristotle was a dumba$$.
Aristotle was a dumba$$.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Sophomakhos
Don Juan
Happiness is being satisfied with what you've got. That doesn't mean that you shouldn't try anything new of course, because that would become boring, and thus you wouldn't be satisfied with what you have. Still, there is a line in one of the Roman poet Horace's Odes that goes thus:
The less I desire, the more I seem to have.
Judge for yourself, ultimately.
The less I desire, the more I seem to have.
Judge for yourself, ultimately.
penkitten
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Happiness is situational.
Happiness is not a state of mind. You can't choose to be happy when you're hurt. It's just plain denial.
To explain happiness is like trying to explain what love is.
There is no answer.
However, I do somewhat agree with Aristotle when he says that it might be a process where we put value in what we perceive to make us happy and trying to attain it.
To explain happiness is like trying to explain what love is.
There is no answer.
However, I do somewhat agree with Aristotle when he says that it might be a process where we put value in what we perceive to make us happy and trying to attain it.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
DumpaLumpagus
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...A full tank of gas in my tank (BMW), no traffic, a pretty girl in the passenger seat, and a clear mountain road.
...Finding more reason for the journey than the destination, for we never grow when we stagnate in one place too long.
...Always evolving because a new experience expands our perception of time, which is really all we have.
My thoughts
...Finding more reason for the journey than the destination, for we never grow when we stagnate in one place too long.
...Always evolving because a new experience expands our perception of time, which is really all we have.
My thoughts
VoiceofReason
Don Juan
double post...damn.
My bad...
My bad...
VoiceofReason
Don Juan
...a warm gun. Duh.
Tell me someone gets this, please...
Tell me someone gets this, please...
Centaurion
Master Don Juan
^ it's from a cool song (i'm having a brain fart right now so I don't remember the name)
Happiness is when you bust a nut on a snotty b*tches face.
Happiness is when you bust a nut on a snotty b*tches face.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I'm Joe Dirt
Master Don Juan
Happyness is self esteem according to Dr Paul on Deep Inner Game.
Fulfillment = Happiness + Success + Freedom
Fulfillment = Happiness + Success + Freedom
DumpaLumpagus
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Bump!
Happiness is seeing Paris Hilton *ucked in the ass!
Happiness is seeing Paris Hilton *ucked in the ass!