DumpaLumpagus
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Happiness is...
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Happiness is...
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
diplomatic_lies
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Happiness is whatever makes you happy.
Aristotle was a dumba$$.
Aristotle was a dumba$$.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Sophomakhos
Don Juan
Happiness is being satisfied with what you've got. That doesn't mean that you shouldn't try anything new of course, because that would become boring, and thus you wouldn't be satisfied with what you have. Still, there is a line in one of the Roman poet Horace's Odes that goes thus:
The less I desire, the more I seem to have.
Judge for yourself, ultimately.
The less I desire, the more I seem to have.
Judge for yourself, ultimately.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
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Happiness is situational.
Happiness is not a state of mind. You can't choose to be happy when you're hurt. It's just plain denial.
To explain happiness is like trying to explain what love is.
There is no answer.
However, I do somewhat agree with Aristotle when he says that it might be a process where we put value in what we perceive to make us happy and trying to attain it.
To explain happiness is like trying to explain what love is.
There is no answer.
However, I do somewhat agree with Aristotle when he says that it might be a process where we put value in what we perceive to make us happy and trying to attain it.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
DumpaLumpagus
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...A full tank of gas in my tank (BMW), no traffic, a pretty girl in the passenger seat, and a clear mountain road.
...Finding more reason for the journey than the destination, for we never grow when we stagnate in one place too long.
...Always evolving because a new experience expands our perception of time, which is really all we have.
My thoughts
...Finding more reason for the journey than the destination, for we never grow when we stagnate in one place too long.
...Always evolving because a new experience expands our perception of time, which is really all we have.
My thoughts
VoiceofReason
Don Juan
double post...damn.
My bad...
My bad...
VoiceofReason
Don Juan
...a warm gun. Duh.
Tell me someone gets this, please...
Tell me someone gets this, please...
Centaurion
Master Don Juan
^ it's from a cool song (i'm having a brain fart right now so I don't remember the name)
Happiness is when you bust a nut on a snotty b*tches face.
Happiness is when you bust a nut on a snotty b*tches face.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I'm Joe Dirt
Master Don Juan
Happyness is self esteem according to Dr Paul on Deep Inner Game.
Fulfillment = Happiness + Success + Freedom
Fulfillment = Happiness + Success + Freedom
DumpaLumpagus
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Bump!
Happiness is seeing Paris Hilton *ucked in the ass!
Happiness is seeing Paris Hilton *ucked in the ass!