"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Im noticing that my jeans keep falling off my waist, i pulled them up 2000 times today, results or not, it still made me feel like theres a difference...
I-tallionStallion
Master Don Juan
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
5/26/08
I was hella tired today.
Bench
180x5
180x5
180x5
Squat
140x5
140x5
140x5 Damn my legs are killing me
Deads
185x5
Dips
8x2
18 mins elliptical
Meal 1 - 3 Eggs- Scrambled
Meal 2 - Steak and veggies, protein shake
Meal 3 - Protein Shake
Meal 4 - Chicken and veggies, post workout carbs, is this ok?
Meal 5 - 4 boiled eggs
Meal 6 - Big ass salad
Quiksilver
Master Don Juan
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As kerpal said, you probably won't need to change what you're doing for some time. At LEAST 12 weeks, perhaps more since you are still new to some of the lifts.
cheers bro
Squat
140x5
140x5
140x5
Bench
180x5
180x5
180x5
I was having trouble on my last set, and a guy came and helped me. He asked me if I thought I could do more weight.
Him: You think you can add more weight?
Me: Well how much?
Him: You ever try 2 plates?
Me: No never
He proceeds to put the 225lbs on. Him and his friend do it with the "suicide grip" I was scared for these guys, I didnt want the weight to fall on them.
So its my turn, I get under, I do 2 reps and hes like "its all you man" I tried my third rep and failed. He did help me on the first 2 though, I could feel it. I thanked the dude and left. I was tired as hell after that...
Deads
185x5
kickureface
Master Don Juan
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i dont know if you are interested in lifting heavy, but if you do, get starting strength immediately (especially for the squat).
if you're main goal is just body recomp, then keep at it
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Good day
Bench
185x5
185x5
185x5 :box: :rockon: :cheer: Hell yeah
Squat
145x5
145x5
145x5 I love these, they are killing me!
Deads
185x5 Okay, problem here. I can now bench this...whats going on?
20 mins elliptical
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Yet today, I came across another problem. When I woke up this morning my right lower back was in extreme pain. I started flipping out because I couldnt find a position to stand in that would make the pain go away. So eventually I realized the right side of my back would hurt when I breathed in, this morning I couldnt yawn or take a deep breathe. I got in the warm shower today and now I can take deep breathes and its not hurting as much as it was at first. Did I sleep wrong? Did I pull a muscle?
Bench
185x5
185x5
185x3
On my last set of bench press, this guy wanted to work in, he did his set and then I went in to do mine. He kept making me laugh by saying things like; "cmon I wanna see 100 of these!"
Then when I actually started doing my reps he kept counting 101, 102, 103, 104! I ****in started laughing and couldnt finish my set
Squat
145x5
145x5
145x5
Deads
185x5
Bench
185x5
185x5
185x5, Piece of cake...
Squat
145x5
145x5
145x5, lower back rounds, pissing me off
Deadlifts
185x5, im fvcking pissed off here, I cant get this right! My lower back rounds and im bent over so much, its impossible to stick my chest out, I hate doing these now because I cant get them down..
20 mins cardio on elliptical, felt great...my 2 shirts were drenched in sweat
Meal 1: Protein Shake
Meal 2: 2 Pieces of chicken breast and a salad
Meal 3: 90-something % lean beef patties, I dont make a hamburger out of them, I just cook the patties and eat them
Meal 4: Good quality beef chunks with some seasoning
Meal 5: More beef, I cooked and left some extra in the fridge
Meal 6: Probably a Protein shake.
I know its not perfect but hey, no/low-carbs
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.