"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Im noticing that my jeans keep falling off my waist, i pulled them up 2000 times today, results or not, it still made me feel like theres a difference...
I-tallionStallion
Master Don Juan
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
5/26/08
I was hella tired today.
Bench
180x5
180x5
180x5
Squat
140x5
140x5
140x5 Damn my legs are killing me
Deads
185x5
Dips
8x2
18 mins elliptical
Meal 1 - 3 Eggs- Scrambled
Meal 2 - Steak and veggies, protein shake
Meal 3 - Protein Shake
Meal 4 - Chicken and veggies, post workout carbs, is this ok?
Meal 5 - 4 boiled eggs
Meal 6 - Big ass salad
Quiksilver
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As kerpal said, you probably won't need to change what you're doing for some time. At LEAST 12 weeks, perhaps more since you are still new to some of the lifts.
cheers bro
Squat
140x5
140x5
140x5
Bench
180x5
180x5
180x5
I was having trouble on my last set, and a guy came and helped me. He asked me if I thought I could do more weight.
Him: You think you can add more weight?
Me: Well how much?
Him: You ever try 2 plates?
Me: No never
He proceeds to put the 225lbs on. Him and his friend do it with the "suicide grip" I was scared for these guys, I didnt want the weight to fall on them.
So its my turn, I get under, I do 2 reps and hes like "its all you man" I tried my third rep and failed. He did help me on the first 2 though, I could feel it. I thanked the dude and left. I was tired as hell after that...
Deads
185x5
kickureface
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i dont know if you are interested in lifting heavy, but if you do, get starting strength immediately (especially for the squat).
if you're main goal is just body recomp, then keep at it
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Good day
Bench
185x5
185x5
185x5 :box: :rockon: :cheer: Hell yeah
Squat
145x5
145x5
145x5 I love these, they are killing me!
Deads
185x5 Okay, problem here. I can now bench this...whats going on?
20 mins elliptical
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Yet today, I came across another problem. When I woke up this morning my right lower back was in extreme pain. I started flipping out because I couldnt find a position to stand in that would make the pain go away. So eventually I realized the right side of my back would hurt when I breathed in, this morning I couldnt yawn or take a deep breathe. I got in the warm shower today and now I can take deep breathes and its not hurting as much as it was at first. Did I sleep wrong? Did I pull a muscle?
Bench
185x5
185x5
185x3
On my last set of bench press, this guy wanted to work in, he did his set and then I went in to do mine. He kept making me laugh by saying things like; "cmon I wanna see 100 of these!"
Then when I actually started doing my reps he kept counting 101, 102, 103, 104! I ****in started laughing and couldnt finish my set
Squat
145x5
145x5
145x5
Deads
185x5
Bench
185x5
185x5
185x5, Piece of cake...
Squat
145x5
145x5
145x5, lower back rounds, pissing me off
Deadlifts
185x5, im fvcking pissed off here, I cant get this right! My lower back rounds and im bent over so much, its impossible to stick my chest out, I hate doing these now because I cant get them down..
20 mins cardio on elliptical, felt great...my 2 shirts were drenched in sweat
Meal 1: Protein Shake
Meal 2: 2 Pieces of chicken breast and a salad
Meal 3: 90-something % lean beef patties, I dont make a hamburger out of them, I just cook the patties and eat them
Meal 4: Good quality beef chunks with some seasoning
Meal 5: More beef, I cooked and left some extra in the fridge
Meal 6: Probably a Protein shake.
I know its not perfect but hey, no/low-carbs
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.