You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
:cuss: Not good in the middle of training.HandyAndy said:Was at the gym with my friend today. I decided to test my bench max, i got 205, 5 more pounds from a month or so ago.
I know how you feel, I hate squats too. Perseverance is the key though, I will not be beaten by it. I have been stuck at around 250lbsx1 for an age. I will get over 300lbs rain, hail, or shine. Then 400...HandyAndy said:Damn, I'm not doing anything about my squats yet. I need to work on my form its terrible even with just the bar, I feel hopeless.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I've squatted with the widest stance possible but my knees buckle in no 'matter what. I've been watching videos on proper squat form, today at the gym ill try it out and see how I do.Quagmire911 said:I know how you feel, I hate squats too. Perseverance is the key though, I will not be beaten by it. I have been stuck at around 250lbsx1 for an age. I will get over 300lbs rain, hail, or shine. Then 400...
Look into a wide stance. I think you told me you are inflexible and you are tall so you will be better to suited to a wide stance. Also look on stronglifts.com for lots of stretching etc. You probably have tight hip flexors/hamstrings etc etc...
You just need to work at it and eventually it will come.
What I would probably do for you is to have you start doing high box squats, and week by week lower the box height. Whilst practicing form, making sure to maintain your arch etc. Eventually you will be able to do it, it will just take time. Will be worth it in the end.
Try and get a video of you squatting with a light weight, or as high as you feel you could go without f**** something up, so we can try and help you out a bit more.
Keep it up...
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.