She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
:cuss: Not good in the middle of training.HandyAndy said:Was at the gym with my friend today. I decided to test my bench max, i got 205, 5 more pounds from a month or so ago.
I know how you feel, I hate squats too. Perseverance is the key though, I will not be beaten by it. I have been stuck at around 250lbsx1 for an age. I will get over 300lbs rain, hail, or shine. Then 400...HandyAndy said:Damn, I'm not doing anything about my squats yet. I need to work on my form its terrible even with just the bar, I feel hopeless.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I've squatted with the widest stance possible but my knees buckle in no 'matter what. I've been watching videos on proper squat form, today at the gym ill try it out and see how I do.Quagmire911 said:I know how you feel, I hate squats too. Perseverance is the key though, I will not be beaten by it. I have been stuck at around 250lbsx1 for an age. I will get over 300lbs rain, hail, or shine. Then 400...
Look into a wide stance. I think you told me you are inflexible and you are tall so you will be better to suited to a wide stance. Also look on stronglifts.com for lots of stretching etc. You probably have tight hip flexors/hamstrings etc etc...
You just need to work at it and eventually it will come.
What I would probably do for you is to have you start doing high box squats, and week by week lower the box height. Whilst practicing form, making sure to maintain your arch etc. Eventually you will be able to do it, it will just take time. Will be worth it in the end.
Try and get a video of you squatting with a light weight, or as high as you feel you could go without f**** something up, so we can try and help you out a bit more.
Keep it up...
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.