"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Trance

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how would you guys handle this from a woman you ve Been going out and kissing?
Not contact anymore?
Say ok lets stay friends cause i need more from a woman?
Other?

"i really like being with you, you're a great company, but i dont like you in that way, that's why i dont give you everything i am.. :(
But i dont want us to be apart.. But i respect your opinion.."
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Scion

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"sorry, but I have enough friends already. Take care."
 
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Lexington

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Yup, eff that. Why would you want to hang around her if you're not getting anything out of it. There's no use in trying to hide your intentions. Just say that you're not interested in being friends. Be frank about it. Then, just forget about her. If she realizes that she wants more, she'll contact you.
 
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WesCottII

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Honestly, learn to walk away.

It'll only piss you off being around her and not getting what you want. Be a man about it.
 
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starplayer

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Say "yeah sure we can be friends" so you look like you're not bothered by the rejection, but then don't follow through with it.

Don't make a big deal out of it saying how you want more than friends, because she already knows what you want and you're not gonna get it - it will just look needy. Walk away with a smile.

Go no contact and don't hang out with her anymore. Move on.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Joe Stud

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i agree star, dont make a sour grapes soapbox out of "not needing any more friends"... just lose interest in her and move on.
 
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