"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Halloween Party

brenbaus

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Ok, heres my deal, one of my female friends (who i used to like but now have no interest in) is having a halloween party on saturday, where her new bf will be, she still thinks I have one-itis for her.

So heres my question, should I bring a date to her party to show her that I am over her? I know it would make her jelous if I was with another girl (because she told me, of course she has also told me I am the perfect guy for her and we never hooked up). What do you guys think, I cant not go to the party cause I told her I would be there, although I seriously thought about telling her I couldn't come, but I never brake a promise, so I have to go.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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DJ4Real

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Bring a date and don't focus on the girl that thinks you still have "oneitis" for her too much.
 

brenbaus

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Originally posted by DJ4Real
Bring a date and don't focus on the girl that thinks you still have "oneitis" for her too much.
that was my plan of action, but I wanted to check with you guys before I go and do something like that
 

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Yeah, I would've recommended trying to find another party. Who says you can't flake out though?

But if you are going, and you say you are over her. Then why are you asking us if you should bring a date? It shouldn't matter, but apparently you still do have feelings for her.

I suppose you already know this, but you aren't the perfect guy for her. You're her perfect-guy friend.

If the party is designed to be a couples type of party, then yeah I'ld bring a date. If it's going to be like a huge college atmosphere type of party, then I wouldn't bring a date. I would just sarge the hell out of the party.
 

brenbaus

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Yeah, I fvcked up when we first met and got myself stuck in the friend zone, oh well, shes a cool chick

no, its not a college party, its a bunch of high school kids, thats another reason I was thinking about bringing a date, and I would sarge the party but she has no female friends worth talking to (there all a bunch of ub's)
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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locarius

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Originally posted by brenbaus
... she still thinks I have one-itis for her ...
You do. The fact that she has any control over your plans proves it.
 

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Re: Re: Halloween Party

Originally posted by locarius
You do. The fact that she has any control over your plans proves it.
Bingo. If you really "didn't have any interest in her" then you wouldn't even consider what she's thinking while deciding if you should bring a date.

If you still like her, address that first. Don't run from it and try to make decisions as if you didn't care.
 

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Definitely go and take the date. One word of caution: be casual and natural with your date. You don't want the original girl to think that you're "staging" anything to make her jealous.
 
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