"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Halloween Party

brenbaus

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Ok, heres my deal, one of my female friends (who i used to like but now have no interest in) is having a halloween party on saturday, where her new bf will be, she still thinks I have one-itis for her.

So heres my question, should I bring a date to her party to show her that I am over her? I know it would make her jelous if I was with another girl (because she told me, of course she has also told me I am the perfect guy for her and we never hooked up). What do you guys think, I cant not go to the party cause I told her I would be there, although I seriously thought about telling her I couldn't come, but I never brake a promise, so I have to go.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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DJ4Real

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Bring a date and don't focus on the girl that thinks you still have "oneitis" for her too much.
 

brenbaus

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Originally posted by DJ4Real
Bring a date and don't focus on the girl that thinks you still have "oneitis" for her too much.
that was my plan of action, but I wanted to check with you guys before I go and do something like that
 

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Yeah, I would've recommended trying to find another party. Who says you can't flake out though?

But if you are going, and you say you are over her. Then why are you asking us if you should bring a date? It shouldn't matter, but apparently you still do have feelings for her.

I suppose you already know this, but you aren't the perfect guy for her. You're her perfect-guy friend.

If the party is designed to be a couples type of party, then yeah I'ld bring a date. If it's going to be like a huge college atmosphere type of party, then I wouldn't bring a date. I would just sarge the hell out of the party.
 

brenbaus

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Yeah, I fvcked up when we first met and got myself stuck in the friend zone, oh well, shes a cool chick

no, its not a college party, its a bunch of high school kids, thats another reason I was thinking about bringing a date, and I would sarge the party but she has no female friends worth talking to (there all a bunch of ub's)
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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locarius

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Originally posted by brenbaus
... she still thinks I have one-itis for her ...
You do. The fact that she has any control over your plans proves it.
 

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Re: Re: Halloween Party

Originally posted by locarius
You do. The fact that she has any control over your plans proves it.
Bingo. If you really "didn't have any interest in her" then you wouldn't even consider what she's thinking while deciding if you should bring a date.

If you still like her, address that first. Don't run from it and try to make decisions as if you didn't care.
 

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Definitely go and take the date. One word of caution: be casual and natural with your date. You don't want the original girl to think that you're "staging" anything to make her jealous.
 
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