Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Hair Gel, is it bad for you?

Axcell

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I've been using hair gel for about 3 years now, and I've recently had people come up to me and say that hair gel causes baldness? Is there a gel that prevents this?
Is it just a myth? Does it depend on what type of hair gel you use, how much you use, and how often you apply it?

Currently, I have spiky hair and I apply it on a daily basis. I don't use very expensive gel ($4 US at the drug store), however, I make sure that it is alcohol-free,non-sticky, and I purchase a type of gel that has Pro vitamin B5, which is suppose to give it extra long hold while keeping my hair healthy and shiny.

Current ingredients in the gel I use:
Aqua, PVP, Glycerin, Carbomer, Polysorbate 20, parfum, peg-12 dimenthicone, Disodium Edta, Panthenol, Benzophenome-4, ben, etc.

I googled this, and searched this forum.. didn't find much. I found these responses:
"No it doesn't really cause hair loss or baldness literally... but if you over use it you can really dry your hair out b/c hair gel contaisn alcohol so it can get dried out and stiff and break off. So yes in a way you can loose a little hair. I suggest not using it all the time, maybe just when you go to work, or school or when you go out. but take a break from it when your at home by yourself or on the weekends maybe. and use a good conditioner on your hair when you shower so you can keep moisture in it"

Askmen.com states that it does not cause baldness... just want to confirm it with somebody who knows what they are talking about. There are many other sites more qualified than askmen which state it can cause baldness as well.
URL for askmen.com: http://ca.askmen.com/sports/health_60/92_mens_health.html

Thanks for your time,
Nick.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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:eek: ...Ok, now I'm worried. I don't use a ton at a time, but I use it every day. So far I don't think I've lost any hair.
 

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Not all gels have alcohol. I have used various types of gel, wax, and pomades religiously for almost 10 years now and the woman who cuts my hair is always talking about how thick it is, I'll never go bald, etc. My friend Chris is 24, almost completely bald, and never used gel in his life.

It's all about genetics, my friend.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Boschy

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I've thought about this too. Some things I consider potentially harmful:

- Wash your hair too often and/or too vigorously (fingernails across the scalp).
- Use blow drier too often and/or too long.
- Use a lot of hair products and/or chemicals.
- Have your shower water too hot.
- Get too much sun exposure.
- Comb is too sharp or you press to hard.

Like one poster said, I try to give my hair at least one rest day on weekends. No product, combing, washing, styling etc.

Where is the scientific proof? I have none, but if you want to get the full story, a visit to a scalp specialist is advisable.
 

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You could just stop being trendy and not spike your hair.
 

Axcell

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I've noticed a great improvement with my outer game by spiking my hair, so I don't think it is an option. I just wanted to see if it was bad for you, so I could change either the type of gel I use, or use a different hair product.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Improver21

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hair gel is out.

use crude clay to create the matte, bed hair look.

looks natural, stylish yet effortless, probably slightly-emo, but its in.

OR SO I THINK IT IS.
 

Improver21

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oh. and it wont dry hard like gel and splatter everywhere in small particles when u touch it or get bumped.

OR SO I THINK.
 

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i have dreadlocks. some chicks dig it. what kan i do to make it look hot natrual
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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