"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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had to get this off of my chest..

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Hey Guys,

I just got word from a close friend of mine is that he might have testicular cancer. what immediately came to my mind is the pain and suffering he will face. All I wanted to do is hug my friend and tell him that anything that he needs I am here for him.

He still has to go through several tests but it doesnt look good at all.

I feel helpless that I cant take his pain away. A good guy like that shouldnt have to suffer. I know its life. but it still pains me that I cant do anything to help. I am wiping the tears from my face as I write this.

My friend also told that Im the only person that knows and since we both have the same large circle of friends, i cant talk to anyone about this. thats why I am typing it here. to me, typing about it is helping me deal with my feelings.

it just hurts.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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it does man.

thats why we cat take nothing for granted.
 

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On the plus side, testicular cancer responds quite well to treatment, if found early.
Good luck and health to your friend!
Keep your head up! He will be well! :)
 

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I'm sorry to hear about your friend. The good news is you can be a bright light for him. Don't treat him like he is sick, but listen when he feels like talking about it. Banter with him and spend time with him. Just be around and be light hearted.

One of my girlfriends was diagnosed recently with breast cancer. She had a double mastectomy and is starting chemo. It's scary and its harrowing to see someone you know going through this. My friend is doing well so far and has an amazing fighter's attitude, but I know she had to get her head wrapped around the situation in order to come up fighting. Your friend will more than likely go through a similar process. Be encouraging and supportive. My friend's attitude is "well, once chemo is over, I'm going to get a set of really pretty new boobs." And your friend will find his own way to cope.

Be his friend and be supportive. Show him you love him.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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A co-worker had that. It was discovered when he went to get sterilized, he was almost immediately sent to surgery. Within 3 days one of his testicles was removed and he was fine when checked later. It always scares me to hear about people I know getting any kind of cancer, it's one of very few things that really makes me sad to hear. I cannot imagine living in uncertainty whether my life continues or not, other than it being very distressing.

Just to be clear, I have no idea about the circumstances for your friend compared to this situation. I'm not saying it could be resolved quickly for him, I'm just sharing a story.
 
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