"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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had to get this off of my chest..

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Hey Guys,

I just got word from a close friend of mine is that he might have testicular cancer. what immediately came to my mind is the pain and suffering he will face. All I wanted to do is hug my friend and tell him that anything that he needs I am here for him.

He still has to go through several tests but it doesnt look good at all.

I feel helpless that I cant take his pain away. A good guy like that shouldnt have to suffer. I know its life. but it still pains me that I cant do anything to help. I am wiping the tears from my face as I write this.

My friend also told that Im the only person that knows and since we both have the same large circle of friends, i cant talk to anyone about this. thats why I am typing it here. to me, typing about it is helping me deal with my feelings.

it just hurts.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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it does man.

thats why we cat take nothing for granted.
 

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On the plus side, testicular cancer responds quite well to treatment, if found early.
Good luck and health to your friend!
Keep your head up! He will be well! :)
 

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I'm sorry to hear about your friend. The good news is you can be a bright light for him. Don't treat him like he is sick, but listen when he feels like talking about it. Banter with him and spend time with him. Just be around and be light hearted.

One of my girlfriends was diagnosed recently with breast cancer. She had a double mastectomy and is starting chemo. It's scary and its harrowing to see someone you know going through this. My friend is doing well so far and has an amazing fighter's attitude, but I know she had to get her head wrapped around the situation in order to come up fighting. Your friend will more than likely go through a similar process. Be encouraging and supportive. My friend's attitude is "well, once chemo is over, I'm going to get a set of really pretty new boobs." And your friend will find his own way to cope.

Be his friend and be supportive. Show him you love him.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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A co-worker had that. It was discovered when he went to get sterilized, he was almost immediately sent to surgery. Within 3 days one of his testicles was removed and he was fine when checked later. It always scares me to hear about people I know getting any kind of cancer, it's one of very few things that really makes me sad to hear. I cannot imagine living in uncertainty whether my life continues or not, other than it being very distressing.

Just to be clear, I have no idea about the circumstances for your friend compared to this situation. I'm not saying it could be resolved quickly for him, I'm just sharing a story.
 
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