Glassguy
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Date a chick for 6 months. Very attractive, intelligent, educated, witty. Very feminine. High up in the medical field. Made a great living a her young age of 31 years old. Owns her own house and 80k SUV. 12 years younger than me. Had her eating out of the palm of my hand. Literally could have proposed and this chick would have married me the next day. All sounds great, right?
Insecurity is something I cant handle. At first it was asking me why I was friends with so many chicks on social media. Then it was "why did you like so and so's pic"......even though so and so was a good female friend of mine in real life. I was getting tired of explaining. It was getting old.
So I hid my friends list on fb. That worked for a while (and I recommend everyone do that). Then it became asking me about women who liked my posts on social media, because she could see them then.
The final straw was she started screen shotting my followers on IG and then asking MY DAUGHTER who some of the chicks were. Unbearable. Told her over the weekend that this wasnt working any longer and time to move on. It wasnt an easy decision but it was an easy decision. Her insecurity killed the relationship.
I want to make 2 points from this situation:
1.) Insecurity from either a woman OR a man will kill attraction. Thats exactly what happened here. Her insecurity, questioning, etc made me not even want to be around her. And for the last 3 weeks I wasnt around her much at all. Dont be the insecure person who dynamites the relationship that is going well. I am not saying dont just all of a sudden trust someone, because trust is earned, but I am saying keep in withing the confines of your own head until you have to escalate on an issue.
2.) Pipeline- Glassguy was born at night but not last night. As soon as her insecurity started to become an issue, I started letting the pipeline start filling up. Broke up this past weekend, been on 1 drinks date (lay) and 3 more scheduled this weekend. No big fancy dinners. Just meet up for a drink and let things roll. Took a peak on Tinder and Bumble, lots of matches but I havent dove into those yet. When you feel something is off in a relationship (plate, GF, fiance or wife) you should start setting up yourself for success in terms of if things go bad. Your gut is normally right about suspicions or feelings that things are going array.
Some guys might feel sorry for themselves. They might sit around and ponder their decision to end things for a few days and feel sorry about what happened. Other guys choose to already have the audibles in motion and jump right back out there. Life is short. No time for pandering around. Thats the guy I am.
Will I spin plates? Will I casually date with no expectations and just let things happen? Yes. If someone comes along that earns more attention and potential relationship attention? We shall see. But I will be in control, I will have a strong frame and put myself first in terms of dating. Always.
Happy Hunting
Insecurity is something I cant handle. At first it was asking me why I was friends with so many chicks on social media. Then it was "why did you like so and so's pic"......even though so and so was a good female friend of mine in real life. I was getting tired of explaining. It was getting old.
So I hid my friends list on fb. That worked for a while (and I recommend everyone do that). Then it became asking me about women who liked my posts on social media, because she could see them then.
The final straw was she started screen shotting my followers on IG and then asking MY DAUGHTER who some of the chicks were. Unbearable. Told her over the weekend that this wasnt working any longer and time to move on. It wasnt an easy decision but it was an easy decision. Her insecurity killed the relationship.
I want to make 2 points from this situation:
1.) Insecurity from either a woman OR a man will kill attraction. Thats exactly what happened here. Her insecurity, questioning, etc made me not even want to be around her. And for the last 3 weeks I wasnt around her much at all. Dont be the insecure person who dynamites the relationship that is going well. I am not saying dont just all of a sudden trust someone, because trust is earned, but I am saying keep in withing the confines of your own head until you have to escalate on an issue.
2.) Pipeline- Glassguy was born at night but not last night. As soon as her insecurity started to become an issue, I started letting the pipeline start filling up. Broke up this past weekend, been on 1 drinks date (lay) and 3 more scheduled this weekend. No big fancy dinners. Just meet up for a drink and let things roll. Took a peak on Tinder and Bumble, lots of matches but I havent dove into those yet. When you feel something is off in a relationship (plate, GF, fiance or wife) you should start setting up yourself for success in terms of if things go bad. Your gut is normally right about suspicions or feelings that things are going array.
Some guys might feel sorry for themselves. They might sit around and ponder their decision to end things for a few days and feel sorry about what happened. Other guys choose to already have the audibles in motion and jump right back out there. Life is short. No time for pandering around. Thats the guy I am.
Will I spin plates? Will I casually date with no expectations and just let things happen? Yes. If someone comes along that earns more attention and potential relationship attention? We shall see. But I will be in control, I will have a strong frame and put myself first in terms of dating. Always.
Happy Hunting
