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So I hid my friends list on fb. That worked for a while (and I recommend everyone do that). Then it became asking me about women who liked my posts on social media, because she could see them then.
@Glassguy , you're a high value guy with strong frame an you handled everything well. I wouldn't worry about hiding friends on social media. This girl had obvious insecurity/jealousy issues, end of story. I've dated women like that, and I used to hide things that I had no reason to hide to try to avoid their drama. But I realized that some girls' drama will surface no matter what. If she can't accept that I'm a man with a lot of females in his orbit, that's her problem and she can either get on board or hit the bricks. A little jealousy here and there is healthy, but I won't hide who I am.
 

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Have you noticed that when you are a high value high status guy with looks, confidence, and a purpose that most girls will stay away from or even ignore you despite them being highly attracted to you? First time this started happening to me I got confused because I thought I was doing something wrong as I was being rejected despite the iois but in reality I was doing everything right as I didn't care how pretty the girl was so I didn't treat her like every other guy did.
I've had this happen and it seems to boil down to girls that fit into one or more of these categories: Low quality(pretending to be high), insecure type, intimidated, Pessimistic, spoiled(in more ways than one, gifts, attention, etc).

Some of these girls are used to having everything their way and have everything come easy for them through beta simps and white knights. And when they sense that you won't cave and provide that easily because you're not like the rest, they have already "lost" in their minds and will not make any effort, or try to go out of their way to ignore you. They know they can't be your center part of your universe and that you have a lot of other options. Some think that by ignoring you or not letting it be known that they are attracted to you, they are secretly hoping that you will cave and start coming around by showering them with attention like her beta simps. It's a form of a cop out for some girls.
 

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Have you noticed that when you are a high value high status guy with looks, confidence, and a purpose that most girls will stay away from or even ignore you despite them being highly attracted to you? First time this started happening to me I got confused because I thought I was doing something wrong as I was being rejected despite the iois but in reality I was doing everything right as I didn't care how pretty the girl was so I didn't treat her like every other guy did.
Some women dont want the guy, they just want the free attention. When you're not chasing a woman and showering her with free attention, she isn't interested. But remember its only because you're not giving her the free product that betas give her and it's a dodged bullet in the long run.
 

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Date a chick for 6 months. Very attractive, intelligent, educated, witty. Very feminine. High up in the medical field. Made a great living a her young age of 31 years old. Owns her own house and 80k SUV. 12 years younger than me. Had her eating out of the palm of my hand. Literally could have proposed and this chick would have married me the next day. All sounds great, right?

Insecurity is something I cant handle. At first it was asking me why I was friends with so many chicks on social media. Then it was "why did you like so and so's pic"......even though so and so was a good female friend of mine in real life. I was getting tired of explaining. It was getting old.

So I hid my friends list on fb. That worked for a while (and I recommend everyone do that). Then it became asking me about women who liked my posts on social media, because she could see them then.

The final straw was she started screen shotting my followers on IG and then asking MY DAUGHTER who some of the chicks were. Unbearable. Told her over the weekend that this wasnt working any longer and time to move on. It wasnt an easy decision but it was an easy decision. Her insecurity killed the relationship.

I want to make 2 points from this situation:

1.) Insecurity from either a woman OR a man will kill attraction. Thats exactly what happened here. Her insecurity, questioning, etc made me not even want to be around her. And for the last 3 weeks I wasnt around her much at all. Dont be the insecure person who dynamites the relationship that is going well. I am not saying dont just all of a sudden trust someone, because trust is earned, but I am saying keep in withing the confines of your own head until you have to escalate on an issue.

2.) Pipeline- Glassguy was born at night but not last night. As soon as her insecurity started to become an issue, I started letting the pipeline start filling up. Broke up this past weekend, been on 1 drinks date (lay) and 3 more scheduled this weekend. No big fancy dinners. Just meet up for a drink and let things roll. Took a peak on Tinder and Bumble, lots of matches but I havent dove into those yet. When you feel something is off in a relationship (plate, GF, fiance or wife) you should start setting up yourself for success in terms of if things go bad. Your gut is normally right about suspicions or feelings that things are going array.

Some guys might feel sorry for themselves. They might sit around and ponder their decision to end things for a few days and feel sorry about what happened. Other guys choose to already have the audibles in motion and jump right back out there. Life is short. No time for pandering around. Thats the guy I am.

Will I spin plates? Will I casually date with no expectations and just let things happen? Yes. If someone comes along that earns more attention and potential relationship attention? We shall see. But I will be in control, I will have a strong frame and put myself first in terms of dating. Always.

Happy Hunting
You did the right thing. What most guys don't realize is girls can "blow it" too. And this chick clearly did. She blew her chance with you through stupid behaviour.

Bravo Glass guy. Handled perfectly.
 

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Women can’t be trusted. They live only for their agenda, If you are nice to them they will exploit that. The only way to keep them on a leash is for them to realize they are expendable. You have to be brave enough like Glassguy to press the eject button when things arent going right,
 

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Ill start by saying going through your daughter was a shady move, not good. I'm guessing she reached a point of desperation and acted accordingly.

The thing I disagree with is having relations with people of the opposite sex. It never tends to go well, and can certainly foster insecurity in one party. Did she also commit the same actions that you did on social media? Did she have lots of male friends that she communicated with?

Walking the line between not caring and caring enough is tricky. From how it sounds, you were firmly on the "one foot out the door" side of the line, thereby never giving her any sort of certainty in the relationship. Without a firm footing, she resulted in desperate behaviors.

While I do agree that she was out of line, it would likely be beneficial to evaluate how your actions drove her to behave like this.

Personally, a fair amount of jealousy doesn't bother me. It serves as a reminder of the power dynamic in the relationship. If she stopped caring about me getting around, then she may be looking elsewhere as well. Very telling. When my lady gives me grief, "so who's xxx at your work?", I usually respond with "some new girl, young, very attractive, I wonder if she's single...?" That's usually the end of that line of questioning...
 

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The good women (who are far and few between) are the ones who don't try and change you, but try and adapt to your lifestyle. The things you do become the things that she does unless you specifically tell her you don't want her tagging along. And you know what? That's the way it should be. That's one of the reasons why older women are absolutely terrible as LTR prospects. They're set in their ways, they won't give xxxx up for no man and they have their own life full of self-indulgence and emotional fluctuation which they're addicted to. A woman who either hasn't built up her own life or is willing to dump everything she's ever known is the one who's going to be a good companion.
I agree largely with the above. A woman may have had to build her own life (that was the case with me) but she will make priority space for her man in her life. And she will accept him as he is. Good and bad. I like having a man in my life. I make space for him as the priority. I still have work and still have kids...but he comes first and his interests come first. Otherwise he cannot lead the relationship and his leadership is crucial to the success of the interaction.

Just my 0.02 on that
 

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Ill start by saying going through your daughter was a shady move, not good. I'm guessing she reached a point of desperation and acted accordingly.

The thing I disagree with is having relations with people of the opposite sex. It never tends to go well, and can certainly foster insecurity in one party. Did she also commit the same actions that you did on social media? Did she have lots of male friends that she communicated with?

Walking the line between not caring and caring enough is tricky. From how it sounds, you were firmly on the "one foot out the door" side of the line, thereby never giving her any sort of certainty in the relationship. Without a firm footing, she resulted in desperate behaviors.

While I do agree that she was out of line, it would likely be beneficial to evaluate how your actions drove her to behave like this.

Personally, a fair amount of jealousy doesn't bother me. It serves as a reminder of the power dynamic in the relationship. If she stopped caring about me getting around, then she may be looking elsewhere as well. Very telling. When my lady gives me grief, "so who's xxx at your work?", I usually respond with "some new girl, young, very attractive, I wonder if she's single...?" That's usually the end of that line of questioning...
I'm not sure if she had a lot of male friends on social media. I never paid attention honestly. I was transparent with her and she went goofy. She sabotaged the relationship. I acted in a strong frame where I wasn't jealous or needy. She apparently was used to men showering her with attention and not acting as I did.
At the end of the day, who cares. It's a dodged bullet.
 

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I had to leave a girl like that. It irritated me to the point the I lost all attraction for her.
That is exactly the way it went down. After her trying to grill me several times over things I didnt do, it totally killed the attraction and I didnt even want to be around her. And the last 3 weeks we were "together", I only saw her twice.
 
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