"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Not all women have the same hobby as men. Like I like fishing and guns. Most women for a date don't want to go shooting.
Agreed. I like playing basketball, soccer, and working out all men activities. Rarely a girl will go do that with me. I have to find out something fun both genders can enjoy. Any ideas?
 

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Agreed. I like playing basketball, soccer, and working out all men activities. Rarely a girl will go do that with me. I have to find out something fun both genders can enjoy. Any ideas?
I inspired all my girlfriends to go for hikes, biking or climbing. They all were into it very fast
 

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Totally agree with Glassguy on this.

It is a huge red flag for a woman to expect YOU to confirm dates in advance. Are her fingers broken that she can't text? Entitlement and insecurity. You should see this as a positive thing that she disqualified herself to you and saved you wasted time.

Also, sometimes women will use this as an excuse that makes it your fault, when they find another guy they are more interested in and would prefer to see over you. Instead of owning it, or just cancelling, they mirror their guilt into you and say it's your fault for not confirming.
I will confirm same day, like right before I leave or even get ready to leave. If she hesitates, it's no skin off my back cause 9 times outta 10 I didn't really even want to make the effort anyway and would rather read a book or do training/body weight workouts or just rest from work. Any fvckups by the women, she never sees me, she loses.
 

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I will confirm same day, like right before I leave or even get ready to leave. If she hesitates, it's no skin off my back cause 9 times outta 10 I didn't really even want to make the effort anyway and would rather read a book or do training/body weight workouts or just rest from work. Any fvckups by the women, she never sees me, she loses.
Same here. I will chat the day of the date in the morning for a bit so they're reminded of me then usually before I leave I text them. Especially like this week if I have a date with that MILF which I will be driving 40 miles one way for.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I will confirm same day, like right before I leave or even get ready to leave. If she hesitates, it's no skin off my back cause 9 times outta 10 I didn't really even want to make the effort anyway and would rather read a book or do training/body weight workouts or just rest from work. Any fvckups by the women, she never sees me, she loses.
and what is the different between 1 day gap confirmation?
 

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and what is the different between 1 day gap confirmation?
I would always get same day confirmation. If they don't reply don't go. The one I'm working on for this week is a 40 mile trek. I'll be damned if I get ghosted driving 80 miles round trip lol.
 

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and what is the different between 1 day gap confirmation?
a lot of sh!t can happen in one day, she usually doesn't change her mind in a few hours, but their attention spans are shorter than Ever, so it's the times
 

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a lot of sh!t can happen in one day, she usually doesn't change her mind in a few hours, but their attention spans are shorter than Ever, so it's the times
I agree. Attention spans are very short!!! Got to keep them interested. Why I try and set up the first date as soon as possible and on old try and get the phone number as soon as possible before they lose interest
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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