Had a little fun with some Tinder girl playing games.

[Desdinova]

Friday nite rolls around, and he doesn't even bother going to meet her.

Would've been more fun if you both went on the date

 

[GrowingPains]

Would've been funny if your friend set up a date and time knowing she cancelled on Howie and when she shows up, Howie's there haha. Total mindfvck.

 

[sazc]

@Howiestern so what do you think about her canceling on you because she thought you were too smooth? How does that sit with you?

It also makes me wonder if that other girl, the one that walked out on you a month or so ago, got that same vibe and that's why she left?

Just curious

 

[logicallefty]

Hahaha nice! I wish I could do this but I don’t have any buddies who would go along with something like this. My buddies are too blue pill nice guy to ever do this with me.

 

[logicallefty]

@Howiestern so what do you think about her canceling on you because she thought you were too smooth? How does that sit with you?

I don’t think he gives two sh!ts lol this was all about the fun with the experiment, not actually dating her.

 

[sazc]

@logicallefty I don't think so either, just curious what he thought

 

[The Duke]

@Howiestern so what do you think about her canceling on you because she thought you were too smooth? How does that sit with you?

It also makes me wonder if that other girl, the one that walked out on you a month or so ago, got that same vibe and that's why she left?

Just curious

She told me during our discussion that she thought I might be a little on the dangerous side but she liked it. I am totally fine with it. Its a way to filter out insecure/boring/prude/lame girls. That dangerous-fun-flirty-seducer-talk good-smooth vibe I give off also attracts a certain kind of girl that is a ton of fun to be with and is more confident and thats what I prefer. I'm going to be me, if they want to play along then great. I know I lose a few because of how I am but thats how it goes. I can't be everything to all of them. Guru talks about it often, they either comply or next. If more guys would subscribe to that theory, we would take our power back as a whole and the dating scene would be a whole lot easier even for the clueless dudes. But guys tend to put on the perfect act because they are so worried about impressing a girl and for many they don't have options.

That other chic from a few weeks back had something going on in her head before I even arrived that nite. I suspect another guy from her past.

 

[BeExcellent]

Advice from the old lady:

You know...I think the hilarious thing would have been for both of you to show up on your buddies date after she canned you & hit him up. Oh to be a fly on the wall for that, lol.

Howie knows exactly what he's looking for and its best to know ones self & accept what you gravitate toward. He screens accordingly.

I'm a player magnet. Always have been. Part of me likes the challenge I think. But I know I gravitate toward men with gravitas. I'm self aware. If you are going to date that kind of guy as a woman, you have to have value & you have to have confidence and some sass. The best way for men to weed out BS is not to accept BS. This is just an experiment to demonstrate the BS. No harm no foul on anybody at all. It's an example and yes plenty of folks do stuff like this early on. Men and women.

Women weed themselves out by showing themselves to be flakey, insecure, clingy, crazy, etc. So do men.

People who know they have value operate according to their own purpose/intent and outcome independence. When you have that kind of attitude you have a moxy that shines.

Relatively few people have that moxy. It attracts people like crazy...creates abundance & choice...and makes for great fun, great mischief...etc as you envision according to your intent. Get two people with that kind of moxy together and you have a wonderful, fun, dynamic energy flowing between you.

And you'll maintain it through time too. Odd as that may sound.

Instructive work Howie. Wait for the chicks that appreciate your smoothness & charm. Exactly. That's what you need. You're self aware.

Cheers

 

[sazc]

Hey @Howiestern, question.

A bumble friend and I were discussing the return rate if he tried a moderate "hey, I'm looking for a FWB, you game?" Post on bumble. See attached. I surmised a 22% affirmative response. What kind of a response so you think you would get?

 

[The Duke]

Hey @Howiestern, question.

A bumble friend and I were discussing the return rate if he tried a moderate "hey, I'm looking for a FWB, you game?" Post on bumble. See attached. I surmised a 22% affirmative response. What kind of a response so you think you would get?

It would depend on how attractive the girls were relative to me. But if we are talking HB7's-8's, I'd say 5%.

BTW, I would never say anything along those lines, it doesn't flip female attraction switches! I've never asked a chic to have sex with me, I just set the stage so it can happen and steer her in the direction I want to go.

Sounds like a business transaction to me when its that direct. We all know women are covert communicators and prefer to be seduced.

 

[sazc]

It would depend on how attractive the girls were relative to me. But if we are talking HB7's-8's, I'd say 5%.

BTW, I would never say anything along those lines, it doesn't flip female attraction switches! I've never asked a chic to have sex with me, I just set the stage so it can happen and steer her in the direction I want to go.

Sounds like a business transaction to me when its that direct. We all know women are covert communicators and prefer to be seduced.

All true.

Bumble friend Jeff and I were discussing my other, most recent "I'm 5'9"" (but really I'm 5'5") bumble date, where said dude tried to steer me into sexting 3 times during texting (denied) and then, on the date, mentioned that he didn't see anything wrong with a woman sexting multiple guys on bumble at once "what's wrong with that?!" Bumble date says.

Jeff said he's been offered no strings attached sex a few times, up front, on OLD - hence the discussion about posting that.

This wasn't too actually get sex, it was more to see how many would agree.

 

[Mazer]

She told me during our discussion that she thought I might be a little on the dangerous side but she liked it. I am totally fine with it. Its a way to filter out insecure/boring/prude/lame girls. That dangerous-fun-flirty-seducer-talk good-smooth vibe I give off also attracts a certain kind of girl that is a ton of fun to be with and is more confident and thats what I prefer. I'm going to be me, if they want to play along then great. I know I lose a few because of how I am but thats how it goes. I can't be everything to all of them. Guru talks about it often, they either comply or next. If more guys would subscribe to that theory, we would take our power back as a whole and the dating scene would be a whole lot easier even for the clueless dudes. But guys tend to put on the perfect act because they are so worried about impressing a girl and for many they don't have options.

That other chic from a few weeks back had something going on in her head before I even arrived that nite. I suspect another guy from her past.

When I hear a woman call me “smooth” it means please don’t pump and dump me like every other guy. I need a break from riding all this cawk. I’m looking for some beta fool.

 

[17 shots]

You have a cool friend... because I still would of met up with her

 

[MatureDJ]

One of the most cringey things I've read on here.

It sucks that she flaked, but we've all done it. We've all dropped someone for someone we were more interested in. In this case it just happened to be your buddy, and instead of being mature about it you played some high school games and both lost out. Bravo.

I can't say that I've ever done this.