"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Viewed HB8.8 on match. I found her profile attractive so I sent her a message

Rainman : Hi Siobhan, i'm Rainman =) Harry Potter, that is so gay, even gayer than Justin Bieber! I'm working with a Scottish bloke today..i cannot understand one fu*king word he is saying! Hmm if you do make good flapjacks then there is a really good chance i would choose you over other women. Well you sound like you might be more than just a pretty face. I like it that you are quiet & reserved. I think we could be a good match.

She replied : Hi, I didnt want to be rude and ignore your message, but I think I'm looking for someone more liberal minded than yourself. You probably aren't aware but your message had both sexist and homophobic conotations, neither of which I am okay with.

No offence is meant and good luck on the site.

I was going to reply with : Ok, have fun :)

She had Blacklisted me though. Bitc*
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I followed Dave M's advice from his Online Dating Program :-

1. Introduce yourself.

2. Bust her I.e I couldn’t get my pics up because you took up all the room win yours or my granny had that dress from primark or gotta love a woman who does taibo .

3. About me I.e my qualities.

4. Her profile find something that interests me I.e something in backround or something she's wearing

5. Qualify her I.e what do your friends say about you or whats the most adventurous thing you've done or whats your favorite food

6. call to action I.e look were both on here to meet someone so I think you’d be foolish if we dont speak at least once.

When she replys answer her & say thanks for response am busy whats your number.
 

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Your message was horrific. What the fvck were you even talking about? Theres a big difference between teasing a girl and coming off as a total prick.

Dont follow some douchebags tips on what to say online to a girl. Say what YOU want to say and what feels right.
 

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Read it & you'll see what I was talking about. I did write what I wanted to write.
 

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Sorry but your message comes off as homophobic, ignorant, sexist, lame, and trying for attention.

That site is a graveyard of damaged, low quality chicks anyway. Do yourself a favor and just go to the fvcking mall or bookstore or bar. If you're gonna do the hookup/online game thing, just get Tinder
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Wow. Thanks for the feedback guys. Appreciated.
 

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Your message was all over the place how would she even respond to it? Harry potter? Flapjacks? Some scottish dude? You're making it too complicated.. Keep it simple, keep it short. Hi im xyz, insert comment/question about her profile, done. Or just ask her out on first message.
 

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jurry said:
Keep it simple, keep it short. Hi im xyz, insert comment/question about her profile, done. Or just ask her out on first message.
That would work, but I think everyone will do that. Everyone will use canned lines too. Everyone has different methods. I do ok online.
 
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