"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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neonlimited

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ive been on week 1 for 3 WEEKS, i just CANT say hi to a random person, when i am working i say Hi to the customers no problem, but when I am passing someone on the street, i just CANT say hi,

ive read all on it and the dj bible, i need help here

EDIT - Meant DJ Bootcamp - Not bible
 
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Do you mean the Boot Camp?

I'm a bit confused, the Bible is divided into weeks?:confused:
 

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If you're afraid of just popping in someone's face with a "HI!!!!", have you considered a bit of situational small talk?

You're on the train, and there's delay. You mention to the people sitting across you - "Boy, that sucks hey?"

Do that for a bit, and after a while you'll get used to the random-talking-to-strangers thing.
 

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diplomatic_lies said:
If you're afraid of just popping in someone's face with a "HI!!!!", have you considered a bit of situational small talk?

You're on the train, and there's delay. You mention to the people sitting across you - "Boy, that sucks hey?"

Do that for a bit, and after a while you'll get used to the random-talking-to-strangers thing.
Diplomatic makes a good point. Situations like that would be perfect. In other situations with people you're passing while walking down the street, be a damn man!! Grab you balls and say hello. The people you speak to won't bite you or yell at you, I promise! Say hello. OPEN YOUR MOUTH!

Humans are social being by nature. We go crazy if there is no one to talk to. Take a cell phone away from a girl and see how crazy she gets. Your problem is you. I can understand that maybe you're nervous about speaking to random people, but believe me, you'd be surprised at how many people will say hello back when you speak.

If we're going with baby steps. Don't speak to no one as you're walking past them. Pay attention to how many people will look down and away from you as you pass them. THAT'S YOU!! You're afraid. After you build up confidence in looking at people, take those same people and when they down and away, SPEAK UP!! Say "HEY... HELLO.. HOW ARE YOU DOING..." I will bet you money they will look up at you and say hello back. Some will even smile. Why? Because it's the courteous thing to do.

Just try it and see what happens. Report back with what you've discovered. Good luck
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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