"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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neonlimited

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ive been on week 1 for 3 WEEKS, i just CANT say hi to a random person, when i am working i say Hi to the customers no problem, but when I am passing someone on the street, i just CANT say hi,

ive read all on it and the dj bible, i need help here

EDIT - Meant DJ Bootcamp - Not bible
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Do you mean the Boot Camp?

I'm a bit confused, the Bible is divided into weeks?:confused:
 

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If you're afraid of just popping in someone's face with a "HI!!!!", have you considered a bit of situational small talk?

You're on the train, and there's delay. You mention to the people sitting across you - "Boy, that sucks hey?"

Do that for a bit, and after a while you'll get used to the random-talking-to-strangers thing.
 

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diplomatic_lies said:
If you're afraid of just popping in someone's face with a "HI!!!!", have you considered a bit of situational small talk?

You're on the train, and there's delay. You mention to the people sitting across you - "Boy, that sucks hey?"

Do that for a bit, and after a while you'll get used to the random-talking-to-strangers thing.
Diplomatic makes a good point. Situations like that would be perfect. In other situations with people you're passing while walking down the street, be a damn man!! Grab you balls and say hello. The people you speak to won't bite you or yell at you, I promise! Say hello. OPEN YOUR MOUTH!

Humans are social being by nature. We go crazy if there is no one to talk to. Take a cell phone away from a girl and see how crazy she gets. Your problem is you. I can understand that maybe you're nervous about speaking to random people, but believe me, you'd be surprised at how many people will say hello back when you speak.

If we're going with baby steps. Don't speak to no one as you're walking past them. Pay attention to how many people will look down and away from you as you pass them. THAT'S YOU!! You're afraid. After you build up confidence in looking at people, take those same people and when they down and away, SPEAK UP!! Say "HEY... HELLO.. HOW ARE YOU DOING..." I will bet you money they will look up at you and say hello back. Some will even smile. Why? Because it's the courteous thing to do.

Just try it and see what happens. Report back with what you've discovered. Good luck
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

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