"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Guys, I'm about to crack right now.

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If you weren't ruled by emotion, you'd be over this chick by now.

Instead, you have ONEitis for a chick who played you AND the guy she left you for (physically, emotionally, whatever).

Instead, since it ended dramatically, you are caught up.

And drama free? You might be telling the truth. But based on that email you shared with us and other info regarding her actions that you shared on that thread, I highly doubt all that.

It's your life. Your wifey material.

<sneers and spits on the ground. then gropes herself and walks away>
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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ThunderMaverick said:
You mentioned attention wh0ring and trolling. How do those words help anyone?

If you don't, just for future reference, if you do decide to name call again, I won't be taking your replies seriously.

First of all I never called you those names, I said your taking it to that territory.

More importantly how does calling yourself lazy help anyone?
 

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iqqi said:
If you weren't ruled by emotion, you'd be over this chick by now.

Instead, you have ONEitis for a chick who played you AND the guy she left you for (physically, emotionally, whatever).
You and I are going to have to disagree about what we mean by emotions ruling us. In my opinion, you're dead wrong. I already explained so we won't have to argue about this again.

Instead, since it ended dramatically, you are caught up.
Well of course there is ego invested in the break up. I didn't want to, so of course that affected me. However it's not the only reason I miss her. I would realize that and move on a lot more smoothly if that was the only factor. I'm not stupid, and it isn't the only reason I'm "caught up" as you say.

And drama free? You might be telling the truth. bla bla bla bla...
No, I AM telling the truth. Believe it or not. It's up to you. Your problem, not mine. :D




<sneers and spits on the ground. then gropes herself and walks away>
You're an animal.
 

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sometimes a man just has to stop speaking. some of you haven't learned that lesson. some time taking a conversation forward will only result in diminished returns.

Never argue with a fool. Someone watching may not be able to tell the difference.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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iqqi said:
It is his justification for thinking the girl is "wifey material", and his ongoing ONEitis.
I'm making the point that if someone is happy with someone, they don't break up. I'm making the point that if you don't have confidence in yourself, if you're lazy, and if you have money problems, it's only a matter of time before things don't work out.

I did a lot of things wrong to make that relationship NOT work. Stop treating me like I didn't do anything wrong and making her out to be Satan who loves to eat men's souls. It's silly.
 

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sometimes a man just has to stop speaking. some of you haven't learned that lesson. some time taking a conversation forward will only result in diminished returns.

Never argue with a fool. Someone watching may not be able to tell the difference.

You're right. That's a good suggestion.
 

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I'm making the point that if someone is happy with someone, they don't break up. I'm making the point that if you don't have confidence in yourself, if you're lazy, and if you have money problems, it's only a matter of time before things don't work out.

I did a lot of things wrong to make that relationship NOT work. Stop treating me like I didn't do anything wrong and making her out to be Satan who loves to eat men's souls. It's silly.
YOU are the one who is villifying yourself.

Being a lowdown h0 is COMPLETELY different from being broke and down on your luck.



YOU: Broke. Down on your luck financially. Lazy.

HER: Investing emotions in another man. Emailing one man (her ex) about another (the man she left him for)'s apendages, and "relationship issues". And basically cheating on him through email. Ect. ect.



Two completely different types of issues. One is situational, the other is character.

PLEASE post that email again, I guarantee you will get the whipping of your life AGAIN for considering that chick to be "wife material". Since noone remembers. I do! Even the things I am bringing up, aren't half as bad as the entirety of that email! My god, I can't remember a more lowdown chick.
 

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iqqi said:
YOU are the one who is villifying yourself.

Being a lowdown h0 is COMPLETELY different from being broke and down on your luck.



YOU: Broke. Down on your luck financially. Lazy.

HER: Investing emotions in another man. Emailing one man (her ex) about another (the man she left him for)'s apendages, and "relationship issues". And basically cheating on him through email. Ect. ect.



Two completely different types of issues. One is situational, the other is character.

PLEASE post that email again, I guarantee you will get the whipping of your life AGAIN for considering that chick to be "wife material". Since noone remembers. I do!
Uh. All that wasted text and you forget that being lazy and poor wasn't my only problem.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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iqqi said:
He is talking about YOU.

But I will be another fool and keep slamming sense into your head.
No, he was talking about US. You FOOL!

We're not getting anywhere.
 

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Uh. All that wasted text and you forget that being lazy and poor wasn't my only problem.
Well you still have major confidence issues.

I am sure if that doesn't change you will indeed end up with a lowdown h0 for a wife. Who will leave you for some guy with a small d!ck the minute you have another streak of bad luck, and she has to get a job. Of course a year later she will email you and tell you all about the new man and HIS "awful issues".

I wonder if there is a parallel sosuave universe, where that guy is also pining away for some lowdown chick, and blaming his "size" issues on the break up. Of course he probably doesn't even know that was an "issue". Who knows what "issues" he knows about you, that you don't.

BAM.
 

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iqqi said:
Well you still have major confidence issues.

I am sure if that doesn't change you will indeed end up with a lowdown h0 for a wife. Who will leave you for some guy with a small d!ck the minute you have another streak of bad luck, and she has to get a job. Of course a year later she will email you and tell you all about the new man and HIS "awful issues".

I wonder if there is a parallel sosuave universe, where that guy is also pining away for some lowdown chick, and blaming his "size" issues on the break up. Of course he probably doesn't even know that was an "issue". Who knows what "issues" he knows about you, that you don't.

BAM.

Weak.
 

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iqqi said:
Well you still have major confidence issues. What I'm doing is basically repeating what you said about yourself, because if I say it IT'S NEW! I mean you actually SAID it, but I'll say it and hope people take it as something he didn't realize before.
Weak.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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iqqi said:
I am sure if that doesn't change you will indeed end up with a lowdown h0 for a wife. Who will leave you for some guy with a small d!ck the minute you have another streak of bad luck, and she has to get a job. Of course a year later she will email you and tell you all about the new man and HIS "awful issues".

I wonder if there is a parallel sosuave universe, where that guy is also pining away for some lowdown chick, and blaming his "size" issues on the break up. Of course he probably doesn't even know that was an "issue". Who knows what "issues" he knows about you, that you don't.

BAM.
As much as I hate iqqi's delivery from what you provided about your ex,TM, she was just another garden variety, branch swinging opportunist. I think you are probably meeting better prospects but your sentiments and emotions are blinding you to that. It'll just take time and you'll realize your ex wasn't all that great.
 

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ketostix said:
As much as hate iqqi's delivery from what you provided about your ex,TM, she was just another garden variety, branch swinging opportunist. I think you are probably meeting better prospects but your sentiments and emotions are blinding you to that. It'll just take time and you'll realize your ex wasn't all that great.
You're probably right.
 
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