"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Guy will let me take initiative, won't take action
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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GO GET ME A BEER!
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Alternatively, and there are these types around, we have had the odd one here, no pun intended, he could be a classic submissive guy looking for a dominant woman. You might not want to take on that role, but I'm led to believe there are large numbers of these types of men, so if you did accept that duty, they would probably be fighting for your attention, him included.
Since he wants to be lacking in initiative, I suggest that next time you are alone with him, you tell him that you want your feet licked. That will either make him or break him. If you think I am not serious you are wrong.
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Because he's a pvssy.kukulkana said:
What kind of answer do you want from a guy's advice forum?
maybe because you are more interested in him than the level of interest
that he feels for you????????????????????????/
or you're ugly.
whichever is happening means that you are in trouble.
if both of those situations are occuring at the same time then you are in some deep $hitt....
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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That's kinda funny...I HAVE done that before when a girl is ugly but F-able...been willing to do stuff with her but let her initiate it.librito said:
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Besides, dude sounds like a DJ. I mean, look at you! Coming to a men's site to ask about him? Your IL is through the roof, or you're psycho... hard to say.
I give dude:
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He also doesn't understand that women love a man who takes the initiative. If this really bothers you, you're probably better off to find a different man because it's doubtful that he's going to change.
1) We work together alone in a room about once a month and although I am not his direct supervisor, I have to approve what he does
2) We both are married (he with a bunch of kids)
3) I am attractive and he gives me all the signs that he wouldn't ming a little fling - at all.
4) He keeps telling me to call him "if I need anything". And, oh yes, "I'm here to give you anything you need".
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work together = troll
Anything you need = troll
2 posts = troll
I'm a woman = troll
no age = troll
type-o's + lack of punctuation + smiley = young troll
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Right on, that's the feeling I get...
I have a wierd friend who is this way, he's a complete push-over but its his sexual interest. He goes to dominatrix and all that crazy stuff, his current gf actually bvtch slaps him in public and he just takes it, very odd but funny for us onlookers... he's a cool guy around us, but around her, wow he's like an untrained animal
I say give him a degrading 'ORDER' and if he complies, he's definitely one of those wierd guys who is submissive looking for some dominant sadist woman.
Tell him to lick your feet or playfully smack him and see his reaction, if he smiles or something, smack the shvt out of him and see what he does next. I'll place money he says 'sorry'.
I'm dead serious as well, no joking intended
-Cod3r
Frankly, beating up people is not my piece of cake. But what if this guy just wants to please me? It sure seems great to have someone ready to do anything you like. I think I will take your suggestion and next time he offers, ask him to lick my foot and see what he does. I promise I'll tell you what happened.Cod3r said:
But he kinda deserves it, just like the friend of mine, he's pathetic and deserves everything that girl gives him. Yeah keep me posted, but i have a feeling I already know what he's going to do lol
-Cod3r