"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Guy chats me up after soccer practice even though he rejected me from facebook

TheLoner

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It is kind of weird,

He did not accept my friend request on facebook,

I guess he feels guilty so each time after practice he chats me up.

Why is this?

It is so weird, why would someone who rejects my friend request

from facebook want to chat me up.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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foreverAFC

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next time after practice just ask him if he would like to come back to your place for a shower and a deep tissue oil massage
 

TheLoner

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foreverAFC said:
next time after practice just ask him if he would like to come back to your place for a shower and a deep tissue oil massage
serious answers please.
 

plate's_empty

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Send him a picture of your Dong.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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TheLoner

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should I ask him why he did not add me to facebook?

should I ask him why he is talking to me after he reject my friend request on facebook?
 

Aristippus

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Sounds like you are simply trying to make new friends but struggling. Don't make issues over things like friend requests, etc. Just have fun meeting new people and on a high note, tell them that you're going to do this or that on the weekend and then say they're welcome to join you. Then leave your phone number. Then the pressure is on them to call you. You're not really going to put pressure on them. A better way of putting it is that the pressure is off of you and you risk no rejection from other people. Keep doing this only with people you have really good interactions with.

Sometimes they will simply take your number. Other times, after taking your info, they will volunteer their contact info. This puts zero pressure on you as you're simply volunteering your information. Start getting comfortable doing this with people you want to befriend and then later expand this to women you are attracted to.
 

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tell him you are sore from practice and ask him to give you a back rub, that will also give you an excuse to take off your shirt
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Big Nuts

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The real miracle here is that you haven't thrown yourself in front of a bus.
 

TheLoner

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I don't have many friends,

I only have one question,

someone please JUST ANSWER IT:


why would someone who rejects my friend request

from facebook want to chat me up?
 

switch

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TheLoner said:
Guy chats me up after soccer practice even though he rejected me from facebook

no man just play it cool, and act as if uninterested.rememnber PUSH-PULL
ask him to come for drinks to a bar or club.
get him drunk then take him home....rest is up to you :up:

in the morning he can use the famous "i was drunk" excuse so he wont feel like a slVt.

oh just make sure to use some baby oil or lubrication otherwise you might wake up to a swollen anus ;)
 

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switch said:

no man just play it cool, and act as if uninterested.rememnber PUSH-PULL
ask him to come for drinks to a bar or club.
get him drunk then take him home....rest is up to you :up:

in the morning he can use the famous "i was drunk" excuse so he wont feel like a slVt.

oh just make sure to use some baby oil or lubrication otherwise you might wake up to a swollen anus ;)
LOL!!
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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I don't know if the OP is a troll or not, but is there any issues with gays?
 

Aristippus

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Forget about using Facebook to make friends. The real way to make friends is in person. It sounds like you might have an extreme fear of rejection by people in general or maybe some form of social anxiety. I would suggest counseling. Only keep going if it seems to do you some good. You can judge by results. If you're getting results, it's doing you some good. Be willing to switch counselors/therapists if you feel like you're not benefitting much from it.
 

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Yet another example of why Allen should really consider adding a "How To Game Guys" forum to SS.
 

Who Dares Win

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The only reason why he doesnt wanna be your friend is because he has low interest in you, make sure he sees you having a beer with a more cool guy than he, so he will be curious to know what that guy finds in you.

Dont try too hard to be his friend or you will creep him, tell him that you're going to play call of duty and ask him to join you then tease him anytime he blow himself on a enemy claymore.
 

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TheLoner said:
I don't have many friends,

I only have one question,

someone please JUST ANSWER IT:


why would someone who rejects my friend request

from facebook want to chat me up?
He wants to have sex with you but is concerned that you'll become needy and want a relationship.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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