"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Guy chats me up after soccer practice even though he rejected me from facebook

TheLoner

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It is kind of weird,

He did not accept my friend request on facebook,

I guess he feels guilty so each time after practice he chats me up.

Why is this?

It is so weird, why would someone who rejects my friend request

from facebook want to chat me up.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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foreverAFC

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next time after practice just ask him if he would like to come back to your place for a shower and a deep tissue oil massage
 

TheLoner

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foreverAFC said:
next time after practice just ask him if he would like to come back to your place for a shower and a deep tissue oil massage
serious answers please.
 

plate's_empty

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Send him a picture of your Dong.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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TheLoner

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should I ask him why he did not add me to facebook?

should I ask him why he is talking to me after he reject my friend request on facebook?
 

Aristippus

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Sounds like you are simply trying to make new friends but struggling. Don't make issues over things like friend requests, etc. Just have fun meeting new people and on a high note, tell them that you're going to do this or that on the weekend and then say they're welcome to join you. Then leave your phone number. Then the pressure is on them to call you. You're not really going to put pressure on them. A better way of putting it is that the pressure is off of you and you risk no rejection from other people. Keep doing this only with people you have really good interactions with.

Sometimes they will simply take your number. Other times, after taking your info, they will volunteer their contact info. This puts zero pressure on you as you're simply volunteering your information. Start getting comfortable doing this with people you want to befriend and then later expand this to women you are attracted to.
 

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tell him you are sore from practice and ask him to give you a back rub, that will also give you an excuse to take off your shirt
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Big Nuts

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The real miracle here is that you haven't thrown yourself in front of a bus.
 

TheLoner

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I don't have many friends,

I only have one question,

someone please JUST ANSWER IT:


why would someone who rejects my friend request

from facebook want to chat me up?
 

switch

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TheLoner said:
Guy chats me up after soccer practice even though he rejected me from facebook

no man just play it cool, and act as if uninterested.rememnber PUSH-PULL
ask him to come for drinks to a bar or club.
get him drunk then take him home....rest is up to you :up:

in the morning he can use the famous "i was drunk" excuse so he wont feel like a slVt.

oh just make sure to use some baby oil or lubrication otherwise you might wake up to a swollen anus ;)
 

plate's_empty

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switch said:

no man just play it cool, and act as if uninterested.rememnber PUSH-PULL
ask him to come for drinks to a bar or club.
get him drunk then take him home....rest is up to you :up:

in the morning he can use the famous "i was drunk" excuse so he wont feel like a slVt.

oh just make sure to use some baby oil or lubrication otherwise you might wake up to a swollen anus ;)
LOL!!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I don't know if the OP is a troll or not, but is there any issues with gays?
 

Aristippus

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Forget about using Facebook to make friends. The real way to make friends is in person. It sounds like you might have an extreme fear of rejection by people in general or maybe some form of social anxiety. I would suggest counseling. Only keep going if it seems to do you some good. You can judge by results. If you're getting results, it's doing you some good. Be willing to switch counselors/therapists if you feel like you're not benefitting much from it.
 

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Yet another example of why Allen should really consider adding a "How To Game Guys" forum to SS.
 

Who Dares Win

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The only reason why he doesnt wanna be your friend is because he has low interest in you, make sure he sees you having a beer with a more cool guy than he, so he will be curious to know what that guy finds in you.

Dont try too hard to be his friend or you will creep him, tell him that you're going to play call of duty and ask him to join you then tease him anytime he blow himself on a enemy claymore.
 

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TheLoner said:
I don't have many friends,

I only have one question,

someone please JUST ANSWER IT:


why would someone who rejects my friend request

from facebook want to chat me up?
He wants to have sex with you but is concerned that you'll become needy and want a relationship.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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