JohnChops
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How far do you guys trust your gut? I've been getting some odd gut feelings about a situation and I can't tell if it's overreaction or truth. Input here fellas?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Gut feeling
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Malcontent
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Every time I've ignored it, it's bit me in the a$$.
RedScorpion
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Trust your gut, it's your instincts kicking in. Your sub-conscious is probably picking up on signals that your conscious isn't. I'd say use logic to back it up, and investigate. Your gut is your best friend in nearly everything. Just not to confuse it with other feelings.
VladPatton
Master Don Juan
If something feels funny, something IS funny. Trust it. Ease your life man, don't complicate it.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
In2theGame
Master Don Juan
It would help if you told us a little about the "Situation" that's causing a gut feeling but overall, when ive had a gut feeling about a Girl, It was right.
Induced Drag
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Remember
D L R = Doesn't look right
D F R = Doesn't feel right
I N R = It's not right
Always trust your gut.
D L R = Doesn't look right
D F R = Doesn't feel right
I N R = It's not right
Always trust your gut.
Your gut tells you how you know things are, concious part of mind tells you how you would like it to be. There's no concern if these two meet.
That's why you tell yourself things like, 'no she would never cheat on me after all we've been together. She would never be that disrespectful', 'I'm just overreacting and being insecure, of course she loves me', 'no I don't have a problem with alcohol, this is just temporary', 'she's probably just busy and will call me a in an hour', 'she's a great and pretty girl, I have no reason to break up with her. I'll give it a bit time and I surely will fall into her'...
That's why you tell yourself things like, 'no she would never cheat on me after all we've been together. She would never be that disrespectful', 'I'm just overreacting and being insecure, of course she loves me', 'no I don't have a problem with alcohol, this is just temporary', 'she's probably just busy and will call me a in an hour', 'she's a great and pretty girl, I have no reason to break up with her. I'll give it a bit time and I surely will fall into her'...
