"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Gurus, advice and opinions needed
- Thread starter magevis
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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If it's in person: "To end hunger, I want a lot of things, I also want to know if you've had one of those experiences where you look someone in the eyes and feel a strong connection to them" while you stare in her eyes and make the conversation personal and sexual fast.
You get that question when you're confusing the girl, which means you're treading between friend zone and sexuality. So all you do is clarify.
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There's a med school HB that asked me that at a second meeting, just before I got her digits.She's an intern at a local hospital. I passed by her desk after having chatted her up on a previous check up visit.
There's also another HB who was clearly into me (I had known for a few days) who texted me a "What are you trying to do?" following a flirty text exchange, to which I replied."Just trying to find myself a princess".Too corny? Maybe. Her IL went up after that exchange although, her immediate reply was. " What if the princess already has a prince?". But that's another story.
Just curious to know what you think is the best answer(s).
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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This is definitely a bad kind of reply. By mentioning her as a princess, you're giving up your own power at the same time. The game is over for her. I'm not sure if her IL really went up since she was mentioning another guy. To me, this is a red flag. If she ever mention something or someone, she's definitely interested in them. I recommend you to read Desdinova thread about High Score Theory http://www.sosuave.net/forum/index.php?threads/high-score-theory.229343/. you're going to compete with her high score list. It was obvious that she was telling you about one possible guy which is in her top high score list.
Whenever I break just one red flag, later I regretted my decision.
