"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Gurus, advice and opinions needed
- Thread starter magevis
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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If it's in person: "To end hunger, I want a lot of things, I also want to know if you've had one of those experiences where you look someone in the eyes and feel a strong connection to them" while you stare in her eyes and make the conversation personal and sexual fast.
You get that question when you're confusing the girl, which means you're treading between friend zone and sexuality. So all you do is clarify.
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magevis
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There's a med school HB that asked me that at a second meeting, just before I got her digits.She's an intern at a local hospital. I passed by her desk after having chatted her up on a previous check up visit.
There's also another HB who was clearly into me (I had known for a few days) who texted me a "What are you trying to do?" following a flirty text exchange, to which I replied."Just trying to find myself a princess".Too corny? Maybe. Her IL went up after that exchange although, her immediate reply was. " What if the princess already has a prince?". But that's another story.
Just curious to know what you think is the best answer(s).
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
sph21
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This is definitely a bad kind of reply. By mentioning her as a princess, you're giving up your own power at the same time. The game is over for her. I'm not sure if her IL really went up since she was mentioning another guy. To me, this is a red flag. If she ever mention something or someone, she's definitely interested in them. I recommend you to read Desdinova thread about High Score Theory http://www.sosuave.net/forum/index.php?threads/high-score-theory.229343/. you're going to compete with her high score list. It was obvious that she was telling you about one possible guy which is in her top high score list.
Whenever I break just one red flag, later I regretted my decision.
