"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Hello. I've been reading lately a bunch of posts of guys in HS or wherever that are being harrassed by bullies. A reality for many kids. Opinions on how to deal with these bullies are conflicting: kick his ass, don't kick his ass, bring a gun, walk it up, not to mention the all resolving "bulk up". And kid doesn't have anything concrete to work with.

Now, going back to my experience in elementary and high school, I remember never being harassed by bullies, whose presence was HUGE where I studied (in Latin America). Now, I'm not the jock type, and back then I wasn't into martial arts, but I had something to my favor: I played the guitar.

Believe it or not, when I brought the guitar to school, some time after I was proficient at it, people were flocking to see the "show" every recess. That includes the bullies and their circles. And believe it or not, when you ask someone what his or her favorite tune is, and you reproduce it right then, they feel certain respect for you. Actually, a "gang" of bullies asked me every now and then if anybody was trying to start **** with me, so they could take care of them. There was never need, thankfully.

Now, I'm not trying to say "learn guitar so yo can be the clown and not get your ass kicked", but I'm rather giving you some food for thought. When you discipline yourself in something like music, and get good at it, it is VERY difficult to get poeple trying to disrespect you. If you don't have a hobby already or if you want a new one, think of giving an instrument a try. Not one of the reasons why I make music, but the benefits with the ladies should be more than obvious.


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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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i wasn't sure where you were going with this at first, but based on how you interpret it, this could be helpful to some people. good post!
 

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I play guitar.Mostly Radiohead and Oasis songs and some Alice In Chains.I sing hell good too.You should play guitar and hit the gym and you will win my friend.
 

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This post isn't just for playing the guitar. Teach yourself something new and get good at it. People will respect you if you are better than them in some areas. For example, basketball players get respect because they are good at basketball. Coaches get respect because they are good coaching.

Take up a physical hobby and get good at it.

Mine is competition Trap/Skeet shooting and Ping Pong.

Practice makes perfect. Devote your spare time to these hobbies whenever you find yourself watching tv/surfing the net aimlessly!

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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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