"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Hello. I've been reading lately a bunch of posts of guys in HS or wherever that are being harrassed by bullies. A reality for many kids. Opinions on how to deal with these bullies are conflicting: kick his ass, don't kick his ass, bring a gun, walk it up, not to mention the all resolving "bulk up". And kid doesn't have anything concrete to work with.

Now, going back to my experience in elementary and high school, I remember never being harassed by bullies, whose presence was HUGE where I studied (in Latin America). Now, I'm not the jock type, and back then I wasn't into martial arts, but I had something to my favor: I played the guitar.

Believe it or not, when I brought the guitar to school, some time after I was proficient at it, people were flocking to see the "show" every recess. That includes the bullies and their circles. And believe it or not, when you ask someone what his or her favorite tune is, and you reproduce it right then, they feel certain respect for you. Actually, a "gang" of bullies asked me every now and then if anybody was trying to start **** with me, so they could take care of them. There was never need, thankfully.

Now, I'm not trying to say "learn guitar so yo can be the clown and not get your ass kicked", but I'm rather giving you some food for thought. When you discipline yourself in something like music, and get good at it, it is VERY difficult to get poeple trying to disrespect you. If you don't have a hobby already or if you want a new one, think of giving an instrument a try. Not one of the reasons why I make music, but the benefits with the ladies should be more than obvious.


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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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i wasn't sure where you were going with this at first, but based on how you interpret it, this could be helpful to some people. good post!
 

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I play guitar.Mostly Radiohead and Oasis songs and some Alice In Chains.I sing hell good too.You should play guitar and hit the gym and you will win my friend.
 

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This post isn't just for playing the guitar. Teach yourself something new and get good at it. People will respect you if you are better than them in some areas. For example, basketball players get respect because they are good at basketball. Coaches get respect because they are good coaching.

Take up a physical hobby and get good at it.

Mine is competition Trap/Skeet shooting and Ping Pong.

Practice makes perfect. Devote your spare time to these hobbies whenever you find yourself watching tv/surfing the net aimlessly!

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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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